i want to cry...Edited: he's in the car and on his way home!

[etwahl]

Edited to say that it's a 15 hour drive and he's on his way...so we "should" see him by tomorrow afternoon sometime. we're excited this is FINALLY happening! am soooo excited that i won't be a single mom anymore. it's much too hard of a job, and i'm tired of it. i'm ready to resign already :) (the single mom part, not the "mom" part!)


my husband was supposed to come home very late tonight, but i just found out it won't be until late next week now. well at least that's the "current" plan. it's only changed probably 15 times. first it was supposed to be mid october, then before halloween, then by halloween, then a day after, then a couple days after, then mid of this week, then thursday, then friday morning, and now it's "currently" next week. i feel like a dog whose spirit has been severely broken.

i'm so angry and bitter. lauren will be 8 months wed and he's been here maybe 3 of them. and yes, i know it's not his fault, but it doesn't make it any less frustrating.

right now i have so many more things i could complain about - but really, what's the point. it's not like it would do me any good.

Tammy,
Mom to Lauren Genevieve
03/12/2003
www.evantammy.com

[nigele]

Oh Tammy, I'm so sorry. I wish we were closer and could be with you to keep you company while Evan is away. I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better. Sending big hugs your way.

[sweetbasil]

Tammy,
Cry away, honey- I'm always glad to listen. Few people have dealt with what you've been through since last December! I've only ever been so impressed by you, your determination to be the best mommy for sweet little Lauren, and how tough this last year has been on you- but you've come through it so well (and so has Lauren). I'll send prayers for Evan's speedy return that you three can have a great holiday season together, and that he'll be home to stay! Hang in there, sweetie!

Great big hugs,

[bluej]

Definitely cry away. It's so hard to be patient, especially when you've been waiting for this for so long. There are many things I love about military life, however.....there are lots of broken promises and sudden changes in plans and they (the military, not the husbands) just don't seem to care or notice that it turns everyone's life upside down. And there's no one you can officially complain to (well, w/o it affecting your DH's career that is). You have handled this past year so well and I know there have been many ups and downs. Hopefully you'll soon be able to have a 'normal' family life. And it does do you good to complain about anything and everything; it gets it off your chest so you can go on w/o it building up and eating away at you. Hugs to you and hopefully your DH really will be home next week.

[jojo2324]

Tammy, cry away honey!!! I am so sorry that you and Evan are being jerked around this way. Wishing for his speedy return home to you!!! Big hugs!

[Jeanmick]

Oh Tammy, I'm so very sorry! Wish you were back in your old neighborhood so you could meet me at the Starbucks next to the Vons. Take care.

[MartiesMom2B]

Tammy:

I'm so sorry it will get better I promise. When Evan becomes a commercial airline pilot, he'll be at home so much you won't know what to do with yourself! My uncle was away a lot too when he was in the Navy and then again for training with American Airlines. But now he stays at home for 3 weeks at a time with his family. They go on great trips around the world with his discounts too.

I know it stinks now and I'm sending your a big ol' hug.

Sonia
Proud Mommy to Martie 4/6/03

[amp]

Oh Tammy, I'm so sorry! Hugs to you. You, Lauren and Evan have really had to be strong this past year, haven't you. I'm so impressed.

[parkersmama]

Oh, no! Please feel free to cry here *any* time! I certainly wish that they would let Evan come home and STAY a while!! Take plenty of pictures (I know you do!) so he can see all the "moments". I know it's especially hard since you're in a new place. {{{BIG HUGS}}} to you. I will be praying for him to come home *soon*!

[McQ]

Argh Tammy, that's just awful news. But cry, vent, and let off steam here any time you like. My hat goes off to you and all the other mommies that are doing it all alone. But you're doing a great job and we're all here for you!

Allison
~ mommy to Declan 3.24.03

[pritchettzoo]

Cry all you want! I am so impressed with you and I don't even know you! Lauren and Evan are lucky to have you.

Anna
Mama to Gracie (9/16/03)

[Marisa6826]

Awww Girlie.

I'm so sorry that you're going through such a rough time.

Just think of this - a few months from now, if you can handle the remains of a pink house, I will have plenty of room for you and Miss Lauren to come visit in NYC!! :)

Chin up, your man will be home soon.

HUGS

-m

[khakismom]

Tammy, I'm so sorry!! I understand a bit of what you're going thru--sometimes airline life can be lonely. So please vent away. I wish I was closer to help you out. I hope it gets better soon and that Evan is home soon. :) Big hugs coming your way!!

[elvisfan]

Tammy-I just emailed yo-Mary

[sntm]

tammy, get a good cry in. i'm sure evan is feeling awful about it too -- probably the second worst thing about military life. i think you have been so strong through all of this. i hope you know how much everyone appreciates what you and lauren and evan have gone through, what all our military families are going through for our benefit. i don't think i could be as selfless -- i was delighted when chip went inactive reserve.

shannon
not-even-pregnant-yet-overachiever
trying-to-conceive :)
PREGNANT! EDD 6/9/03
mama to Jack 6/6/03

[etwahl]

thanks everyone. i'm feeling a little less "empty" this morning (sleep will do that for you!) i guess i was just so sad because i love and miss him so much, and had my hopes up that he'd be home, we'd made all these plans, and now everything gets pushed once again. it's really frustrating. if i didn't love him so much, this wouldn't be so hard. and if he wasn't such a great husband and father, it wouldn't matter as much i'm sure, but HE IS! he is devastated as well. i know it's only a couple more days, and we'll obviously get through it, but we just miss him so much. thanks for the support.

Tammy,
Mom to Lauren Genevieve
03/12/2003
www.evantammy.com

[cinrein]

Tammy,

I'm finding this post after the fact, but I just wanted to lend a sympathetic ear! I'm so sorry they keep jerking you around like that--it sounds heartless! Please feel free to complain, cry and rage here. You'll just explode if you don't let it out and we're more than happy to help get you through in whatever small way we can. Meanwhile, I'll say a special prayer that Evan comes home to you and Miss Lauren soon.

Cindy and Anna 2/11/03

[megsmom]

I feel so bad for you, you have been through so much. Anytime, I start feeling like I've got a lot on my plate, I think of you, Lauren and others in your situation and tell myself to get over it.

I get bummed when my hubby is an hour late from work because I'm so tired some nights. That's nothing compared to you. I'm sending you all the good vibes I can.

Be strong,

Jen
mom to Meghan 7/13/01
and #2 EDD 11/12.03

[C99]

Oh, I am sorry. You are such an amazing person for being a military wife and new mom. Cry if you can -- god knows, I've cried over lesser things in this journey that is motherhood.

[Melanie]

I'm so sorry! I honestly don't know how you and other Military wives do it. I get edgy if Dh works late.

I hope he'll be home very soon and get to stay awhile!

[etwahl]

well evan was supposed to be home late tomorrow, but he just called and it's been delayed AGAIN! now the new date is either late thursday or earlyish friday. i think i'll believe it when i actually see him!!! it's becoming almost comical now...

Tammy,
Mom to Lauren Genevieve
03/12/2003
www.evantammy.com

[bluej]

I'm so sorry Tammy! Wish I had some comforting words for you. He will eventually be home, is about all I can offer!

[pritchettzoo]

That stinks! I bet he's ready to bolt. Maybe it's a Murphy's Law kind of thing--don't clean, don't shower, look like crap, have nothing in the house to eat--and then everything will work out...

Anna
Mama to Gracie (9/16/03)

[elvisfan]

Tammy~I'm really sorry. Just stay super-busy and the time will fly by...Did you ever start scrapbooking? Maybe you can get started on a scrapbook?

[mamahill]

Wishing him an open highway and no traffic! You deserve to leave Lauren with him and go out for a massage!! Happy celebrating - glad he's FINALLY coming home!!

[mamahill]

Wishing him an open highway and no traffic! You deserve to leave Lauren with him and go out for a massage!! Happy celebrating - glad he's FINALLY coming home!!

[etwahl]

thank you! i have a hair appt for friday - probably 2.5 hours worth. haven't had my hair colored in 3 months (or cut) and i've got some MAJOR roots growing out, so it's about time.

i'm going to make him take her often while i just nap, or read, or computer, or whatever. i can't wait :)

Tammy,
Mom to Lauren Genevieve
03/12/2003
www.evantammy.com

[etwahl]

thank you! i have a hair appt for friday - probably 2.5 hours worth. haven't had my hair colored in 3 months (or cut) and i've got some MAJOR roots growing out, so it's about time.

i'm going to make him take her often while i just nap, or read, or computer, or whatever. i can't wait :)

Tammy,
Mom to Lauren Genevieve
03/12/2003
www.evantammy.com

[celfsh]

Hooray! Wishing Evan a very speedy drive home to you and Lauren!

celeste
mom to olivia 9/25/02

[celfsh]

Hooray! Wishing Evan a very speedy drive home to you and Lauren!

celeste
mom to olivia 9/25/02

[LD92599]

YEAH TAMMY!!!!!! I know you are so psyched right now! You've been such a great mommy to Lauren...enjoy your "reunion!"

Laura
mom to William
3.5.2003

[LD92599]

YEAH TAMMY!!!!!! I know you are so psyched right now! You've been such a great mommy to Lauren...enjoy your "reunion!"

Laura
mom to William
3.5.2003

[lisams]

YIPPEEEEE! You have waited a LONG time for this! I hope Lauren lets you two have a nice quiet evening together!

Lisa

[lisams]

YIPPEEEEE! You have waited a LONG time for this! I hope Lauren lets you two have a nice quiet evening together!

Lisa

[elvisfan]

Oh, that's wonderful,Tammy!!!! I'm so happy for your family!!!!

[elvisfan]

Oh, that's wonderful,Tammy!!!! I'm so happy for your family!!!!

[amp]

Yaaaay! Finally! I've been thinking about you guys. Glad you'll finally get to be a family in the same house for a change! Enjoy!

[amp]

Yaaaay! Finally! I've been thinking about you guys. Glad you'll finally get to be a family in the same house for a change! Enjoy!

[bluej]

Yea! I hope you have a very happy reunion!

[bluej]

Yea! I hope you have a very happy reunion!

[Sarah1]

Tammy,

I really admire you. You have been amazing throughout such a trying time. I can't imagine how hard it is to do everything alone all the time.

Hope the three of you have a wonderful reunion!

P.S. Edited for terrible grammar errors...I'm writing and chasing DD at the same time!

[Sarah1]

Tammy,

I really admire you. You have been amazing throughout such a trying time. I can't imagine how hard it is to do everything alone all the time.

Hope the three of you have a wonderful reunion!

P.S. Edited for terrible grammar errors...I'm writing and chasing DD at the same time!

[jojo2324]

Tammy that's great news!!! Here's to some you time!! And Evan getting to see his precious little girl. :)

[jojo2324]

Tammy that's great news!!! Here's to some you time!! And Evan getting to see his precious little girl. :)

[Melanie]

How wonderful!!

[Melanie]

How wonderful!!

[Jeanmick]

I'm so happy for the three of you! Have a great homecoming! :)

[jmofarrill]

How wonderful! Enjoy each other!

[starrynight]

I'm so glad he is finally on his way home!!

I'm a military wife too and the part I hate the most is the uncertainty. I could handle all this alot better if he was really here when he said he would be and leave on the day they say etc. He goes tdy alot and often it's I'm gonna be gone this weekend, nope I"m not ummmm wait yeah I will *rolleyes* You know how that is. Hang in there hon, and enjoy your hair appt!!