View Full Version : You've got to be kidding me!!!
04-14-2004, 07:46 PM
Just thought I'd tell this little gem of a story. I'm still flabbergasted!
My sister's friend has a baby who is about 9 months old now. She chose not to nurse and my sister just recently found out the reason. According to her friend, "That isn't what boobs are for." What?!?!
I've actually heard that said before. Have you ever heard of the book, So That's What They're For by Janet Tamaro? My mom told me that when she got pregnant, she had the same moment of realization that Tamaro's book captures with her title. My grandmother bottlefed all 4 of her children and my mom's sisters bottlefed all of their children, so breastfeeding was a relatively novel concept for her.
04-14-2004, 08:09 PM
How sad that a mother has that mentality.
04-14-2004, 10:40 PM
Mom to Abigail Rose
04-14-2004, 11:08 PM
< i am speechless! >
04-14-2004, 11:14 PM
I'm interested in what she thinks they ARE for????
04-14-2004, 11:17 PM
MY SIL had the same mentality when pregnant, and decided to buy a pump rather than actually feed from the breast.
She gave up breastfeeding at all within a couple of hours.
04-15-2004, 08:46 AM
SIL thinks bfing is "just gross".
Proud Mommy to Martie 4/6/03
04-15-2004, 09:01 AM
My sis thinks the same thing, Sonia. While I honestly belive that it is her decision to make, I get frustrated when she starts trying to convince me that her opinions are right. Going to restaurants in the first three months, SHE was actually far more ill-behaved on this front than the baby.
Mama to Dante, 8/02
04-15-2004, 09:08 AM
Sadly, I know a few women with this mentality. Actually, they KNOW what they are for, they just don't want breastfeeding to have any negative affects on their breasts...fear of more sagginess, etc.
04-15-2004, 11:30 AM
Let me guess. Did she have a c-section because "that's not what vaginas are for"?
Jacob Nathaniel Feb 91
Logan Elizabeth Mar 03
04-15-2004, 11:58 AM
Oh geez. Didn't anyone ever tell her that the pregnancy, not the nursing ruins them? They'll never be the same! :)
Nathan's Mom 12/19/03
04-15-2004, 12:30 PM
>Let me guess. Did she have a c-section because "that's not
>what vaginas are for"?
LOL - Good Point!
04-15-2004, 03:04 PM
LOL! Sad that women have gotten so disconnected from their bodies. Also sad that so many of us are afraid of birth or believe we can't do it. I knew I could birth, but I was scared to death that I'd hate nursing. What made me lose my fear of birth was information. What made me commit to nursing was information-- but what made me stick with it was love. Developing a nursing relationship was like falling in love.
Mom to Abigail Rose
04-15-2004, 04:22 PM
I know what you're saying Rachel, especially on the nursing part. I've mentioned before how completely and totally icked out I was about the whole breastfeeding thing before I had Alexandra, but I decided to give it a try. Funny how fast my mindset changed about BF. Now I can't imagine a more beautiful thing b/w a mother and child.
04-15-2004, 04:28 PM
I agree with you. I wound up not having the birth I wanted but in the end, I had a healthy baby. As far as nursing goes, I totally miss it. :( Last night, Matthew had some trouble falling asleep so I sat him with me on the couch for a little while. He cuddled next to me under my down throw and my first instinct was to want to nurse him. I told my DH that it is times like those that make me miss nursing. I know what comfort and security that offered him. Guess it is time for another baby! :)
04-15-2004, 05:29 PM
Karin and Katie 10/24/02
Well, yes, it is really difficult for me to agree with. It seems contradictory with 100% of the literature/research out there. And while I always want to positively support moms out there (even when they arrive at different decisions), this one is tough.
Though I have to say that I have heard much worse. One of my coworkers said that they elected to have a C-section so that the delivery could be conveniently scheduled. Another sent their 7 month overseas (China) to live with the grandma because they both worked. He said he didn't trust leaving the baby in childcare. Also, one of the babies in my daughter's daycare brings donut-holes for breakfast every Friday; A one-year-old eating donut-holes every Friday? Tell me how he stands a chance for a balanced diet as an adult? I joke with my hubby that these parents should have their license revoked.
OT, but I almost got my parenting license revoked, too. I put my baby in her carseat, but got distracted before I buckled her in. I think she had some food or toys that I was fiddling with. When we arrived at our destination, I surprised to find her sitting in her seat (as normal), but not strapped in! What if we had been in a collison or rollover? I am so glad I am not a nurse/doctor caring for critical patients every day. I would be accidentally killing people everytime I got distracted.
Anyway, that's all for this little story. I know it seems appalling to you (us), but I think that the little tike will do just fine. I am guessing (hoping) she will bring other positive characteristics to the parenting table :)
04-16-2004, 01:54 PM
"OT, but I almost got my parenting license revoked, too. I put my baby in her carseat, but got distracted before I buckled her in. I think she had some food or toys that I was fiddling with. When we arrived at our destination, I surprised to find her sitting in her seat (as normal), but not strapped in! What if we had been in a collison or rollover? "
(me, too. Boy was I giving prayers of 'Thanks' that day)
04-16-2004, 08:24 PM
that is funny!
i didn't bf the first time (planning on trying with 2nd) but i never once thought that they didn't serve just that purpose!
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