Another BBB Bun in the oven

[babymama]

No need to go searching for Lilypies. It's me!!! I'm 11 weeks pregnant - due Jan 3rd. We haven't told many people, just family & a few close friends...and now you.

I am totally nauseous, much more so than I was with DS. I'm not as tired as I was when preggo with DS - or maybe I'm just too busy to notice that I'm tired.

This pregnancy was a "surprise", although we weren't actively preventing it. I would have liked to wait another year or so, but in many ways, I'm glad that the timing worked out as it did. DS will be 25 months old when the new baby is born.

So glad to finally share this news with you.

We're still not sure if we'll find out baby's sex or if we'll go blind as we did with DS. One good thing about not knowing the first time around is that we've got tons of unisex stuff for the first 6 months. So it takes pressure off the *need* to know the second time around. If I do find out, I'll be sure to share the news here.

I'm getting a boy *feeling* - which is weird bc I didn't have a feeling either way w/ DS. My DH thinks its a girl only bc this pregnancy has been so different from my previous one.

I'm not quite sure about how/when to tell the folks at work, and I could use some advice. The boss is going on a 2 week vacation - leaving this Friday. Should I tell him before he goes, or should I tell him when he gets back? Ideally, I'd like to wait until the latest possible moment to tell him before I start showing - possibly another month. But I keep getting this feeling like I should give him time to make plans (even though, waiting another month would still give him plenty of time for plans, now that I think about it).

With my last pregnancy, I told the people at work when I was 4 months pregnant and it was just before a long holiday weekend which worked out nicely timingwise. It was nice to have the weekend for the news to sink in with everyone. I'd like to duplicate that same time lapse with telling my new boss before his big vacation. On the other hand, I would really like to wait another month if I could.

The other complicating factor is that my boss & his wife are personal friends outside of work (more his wife than him), and if I tell my other friends (which we've already sort of started doing) I'd be worried that it could get back to them bc we share common friends.

What would you do?

Lydia
Mama to Santiago, born 11/16/03
One on the way...due 1/03/06

[jbowman]

WOW, Congratulations, Lydia! I am thrilled for you! How exciting to have you as a pregnancy buddy :)!!! FWIW, my sister and I were due on 3 January (but we came a few weeks earlier).

>I am totally nauseous, much more so than I was with DS.

Me, too! I never understand what being nauseated really felt like until I got preggo this time around! Wow, it's something else, LOL!

>This pregnancy was a "surprise", although we weren't actively
>preventing it. DS will be 25 months old when the new baby is born.

For us too, LOL! And Ellie will be 25 months as well!

>I'm getting a boy *feeling* - which is weird bc I didn't have
>a feeling either way w/ DS. My DH thinks its a girl only bc
>this pregnancy has been so different from my previous one.

Everyone thinks this one is a boy, since this pregnancy is so different. DH and I both think girl, but we were wrong last time, LOL! I have no instinct for this. We'll be thrilled either way! And we will find out as soon as we can. I figure, if I have to go through 40 (more likely 41 or 42, LOL) weeks of this, I might as well get a *surprise* half way through, LOL!

>I'm not quite sure about how/when to tell the folks at work,
>and I could use some advice. The boss is going on a 2 week
>vacation - leaving this Friday. Should I tell him before he
>goes, or should I tell him when he gets back? Ideally, I'd
>like to wait until the latest possible moment to tell him
>before I start showing - possibly another month. But I keep
>getting this feeling like I should give him time to make plans
>(even though, waiting another month would still give him
>plenty of time for plans, now that I think about it).

I told my dept. chair when I got back from Italy (earlier than I felt comfortable, but it was the right thing to do, and I had already spilled the beans to some students, LOL). I think if you wait that's fine (arguing, hey, it's after the first trimester is over) or if you tell now, you'll give them even more time to plan. Do what feels comfortable! That said, if they are friends, I might tell them sooner rather than later.

We'll need to plan a *January 06 baby* party in Austin or San Antonio! We may swing through there in July--I'll let you know! Congratulations, Lydia!

[bcky2]

congrats! wow there will be such a big boom of babies around here in a few months :)

[murpheyblue]

Yeah for babies! Congratulations Lydia!!

[mommy_someday]

Yea, Lydia! That's exciting news, thanks for sharing!

On the job front - from my own personal experience, I would wait to tell them until your morning sickness is gone. My boss was so pissed off at me when I told her (I was a relatively new employee) and she gave me the silent treatment for weeks. This made me physically ill, which I would not have handled well on top of morning sickness. JMTC...

Keep us posted on your progress! Congrats!

[Puddy73]

Whoo-Hoo! Congratulations! I was much sicker with this pregnancy than my first and it did turn out to be a boy, so maybe your hunch is correct! If there is a chance that your boss could hear the news from someone else, I think you should tell him now. I know it is hard to break the news - I dreaded telling my boss both times, but it wasn't as bad as I built it up to be.

Jennifer
Mommy to Annabelle 9/03 & a little pumpkin due 10/05

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[bluej]

Congrats Lydia! I hope you are feeling better soon. At least you aren't tired AND nauseous right?

[stella]

Congratulations!!!

[lmariana]

Congratulations and thanks for sharing the good news here! I hope that nausea passes soon!

Mariana
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[hez]

Congratulations!!!

I told my boss at 12 weeks, and it worked out nicely. My mentee (I'm her mentor) ended up telling him at 8 or 9 weeks, because they were starting to make big plans for her workload to increase dramatically right at the time when she was due. It ended up working for the best...

I'm with you, though on waiting as long as possible. I would have preferred to wait longer, but I got called out at a Happy Hour for drinking Sprite, and didn't want to force that group to have to keep my secret ;)

[DebbieJ]

Congrats Lydia!

~ deb
DS 12/03
And a niece or nephew arriving in early August!

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[c2lane]

Congratulations Lydia!!!!

Carrie & Dillan Rose 01/02/04

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[khakismom]

Congratulations Lydia! So excited for you!

[steph2003]

Thanks for making it easy for the rest of us & outing yourself :) congrats!

[Wife_and_mommy]

Congrats!! :)


Elizabeth

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[RwnMayfair]

Congrats to you, Lydia! I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy! And I hope you're less nauseated soon, too. :)

I don't have any good advice for when to tell your boss, but I hope it works out well!

-Melissa

Taran, November 20, 2003

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[candybomiller]

No advice, but congratulations!!

[amp]

Congratulations to you Lydia! I'm sure Santiago will be a great big brother! Happy, healthy, uneventful pregnancy to you!

[g-mama]

Congratulations, Lydia! I hope the nausea goes away for you soon. Mine is only in the evenings now, rather than all day and night. How exciting!


Kristen
Paolo 11-00
Benjamin 8-03
and a third one coming in december '05!

[papal]

Congratulations Lydia!! How exciting!! Looks like there are many BBB January 2006 babies in the oven! :D

[TraciG]

CONGRATULATIONS

[sugarsnappea]

Congratulations Lydia! :)

[houseof3boys]

That is wonderful news Lydia! Congrats to you and yours. :)

IMHO, I would wait on telling people at work so you can enjoy the news and relax without all of the pressure of people knowing and throwing all of their friendly advice on how you will go crazy with two young ones at home.

Yeah for you!

[LD92599]

Congrats Lydia!

Laura
mom to William

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[cleo27]

Congratulations! Hope the morning sickness passes, soon! I would wait to tell your boss until you are more comfortable.

[NEVE and TRISTAN]

Huge congrats Lydia...we look forward to seeing thru the next several months :)
Neve
Reichen (6), Karsh (3), Tristan (2) and baby girl Bronwyn born March 10th!!!!

[JulieL]

Lydia that's wonderful! Congrats on the new little one, in da oven!

I don't know what to say about your work, but I hope it goes smoothly, and stress free.

[mharling]

How exciting! Congratulations Lydia!!! :)

ETA: I just noticed your due date. Maybe you'll have the first BBB baby of the New Year!

Mary
Lane - April 2003
Faye - March 2005

[bostonsmama]

Congrats, Lydia! I'm glad Santiago will soon be made a big brother. Best wishes for a healthy happy rest of gestation.

As per the boss, wait as long as you need to, as you never know if/when another friend will pass on the news. I hardly think that your boss will be "mad" you waited so long (unless you have a record in the past of leaving the company shorthanded). The 4 months announcement seems pretty standard if you ask me.

L

[Marisa6826]

Congrats Lydia!

For what it's worth, when we went to find out the sex of the baby the second time around, the tech asked me what I thought. I told her girl.

She said that of the Moms that have suspicions, 90% of them are right!

As far as your boss goes, I would tell him before you tell your other co-workers. Perhaps tell him before his holiday, and then tell the others upon his return. That way he won't be one of that last to know.

-m

[ribbit1019]

I would tell him before he leaves for vacation. And Congrats!!!

Christy
Maddy aka "Little Miss Squirmy Monster"

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[darby24]

Congratulations! :-)

[deborah_r]

Congratulations Lydia! This is wonderful!!!

[dowlinal]

Congratulations Lydia!! Hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy.

A

[zuzu]

Congratulations! :)

Hope the nausea goes away soon!

Melissa, mom to Sarah (5/03)

[alkagift]

So sorry to be late on the bandwagon, Lydia, but congratulations to you!

I honestly don't think it matters whether you tell your boss before his vacation or not. If it were me, I would wait until he comes back and is relaxed. If you honestly believe that it might get back to him through mutual friends before you have a chance to tell him yourself (and only you can judge that) then I say tell him asap.

Allison
Mommy to Matthew Clayton, who is TWO!

[missym]

Congratulations, Lydia! I hope your nausea gets better soon.

I was getting ready to tell folks at work so that I could start wearing maternity clothes, when I was "outed" by a coworker who knows a family friend (I hadn't even realized they knew eachother). It wasn't a big deal, since I was ready to tell anyway, but if you want to control the situation, sooner is probably better.

Congrats again!

Missy, mom to Gwen 03/03... and #2 due Sept 05!

[kensjen]

Congrats! That is fabulous news!!!!

[cchavez]

Congratulations!!! BTW, we share the same due date!!!

[starrynight]

I'm not sure about the work issue but wanted to wish you congrats!!! Enjoy your pregnancy :).

[Hallie_D]

Congratulations!!!