Parenting with Love & Logic?

[trumansmom]

These books have been recommended to me over and over lately. Sunday, I was at an acquaintance's home, and commented on how well behaved her boys were (ages 2,3 and 5). She said she used these books.

But of course, I'm skeptical of anything I haven't heard discussed here first! Does anyone have any opinions on these? They aren't at my B&N, so I would have to order them sight unseen.

TIA-
Jeanne
Mom to Truman 11/01 and Eleanor 4/04
Independent Consultant, Do-Re-Me & You!

[Lucia]

Yes! I would also recommend them! Before having my son, I regularly recommended this series/approach to parents (I am a child and family therapist)...now that I am parenting, I value the approach even more! I also know of several schools that implement this approach with success. A good one to start with might be the one specifically for pre-schoolers/toddlers. Very easy reading, very concrete suggestions, and it works (especially if you are consistent with it..just like anything else!).

[daisymommy]

Many, many people in my church use them with their kids and love them...but I am not sure if they are written with a religious perspective or not? I have been told that they really don't apply until your child can understand logic and how doing one thing chooses the the consequences that will happen from their behavior. So, it was recommended to wait until age 3-4.

[cmo]

Would anyone who has used these books be able to give an in-a-nutshell summary of this method? I saw a brochure at DDs school last year about a class they were giving, but never followed up on it.

Thanks!

[amp]

When I was interviewing to be a school social worker at a school where the director of the special ed program was a friend and former collegue, she told me to peruse the Love and Logic books, as those were the partial model they used in their program, so I know they are good. I still have some of them around here, but haven't really used them yet w/ parenting.

[Karenn]

I like the method. I know I use a lot of their suggestions, but it's been so long since I read the book that I can't remember which things come from them! I think the general principal involves helping children make wise choices, and then helping them understand the consequences of their choices.

Here's a link that I think summarizes the philosophy well. It's about their book for teachers rather than parents, but the general philosophy is the same no matter the audience.
[http://www.kellybear.com/TeacherArticles/TeacherTip46.html]

[steph2003]

My pediatrician recommended it to me - it is on my night stand in the ever growing "to read" pile ;)

[SweetTooth]

I have not read the books, but I am a bit familiar with the workshop & philosophy. I believe they focus on emphathy, setting loving limits, and teaching consequences. They offer specific techniques to get your children to listen & make good choices. The thought is to allow your child to make mistakes & learn from them while they are young & the mistakes & choices they have to make are "affordable". Then with increased confidence & knowledge of consequences, hopefully they'll make good choices as older children/teenagers, when mistakes can be more "costly".
HTH