birthday party invite question-opinions needed

[purpleeyes]

DS's b-day is coming up in a few weeks. We're just going to have a small backyard pool party. I am a fan of small parties with just a few kids (age+1), so usually I invite our cousins, one neighbor and one friend from playgroup. The problem is that, as of late, DS has really bonded with another little boy from playgroup-they totally connect, make up little games together, share really nicely, very verbal, etc. I would love to invite him, but that would mean leaving out 3 other kids from the playgroup. Parties in our playgroup aren't really an issue-some people invite everyone, some people don't, do the family thing. But I really don't want to make any waves, either. So, what do you guys think? Not work the risk?

Thanks!!

Beth

[lizajane]

i think it is your party and you make the call. inviting two and not the remaining three still shows you are having a small party. inviting all but one would be a bad idea. but i think inviting two is fine. just make sure you tell the invited moms that you wanted to stay small and you would appreciate if they didn't bring it up around the playgroup. not to "hide" it, but just so you don't flaunt it in their faces.

[lizajane]

double post

[linsei]

Would the other playgroup people be offended if they found out about it and were not included?

Do you ever "host" a play group? Maybe you could do a 2nd small party wtih only play group kids. It doesn't have to be elaborate - order pizza, have cupcakes. Our pg parties are pretty basic.

Linda

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[Fairy]

It's your party, you do whatever you want. If it were me, I'd invite everyone. I always worry about leaving people out.

[purpleeyes]

Thanks for the input, ladies. Right now I'm leaning towards not inviting him, just to avoid making waves. I can always have him over for a one-on-one playdate in the next few weeks, we do that kind of stuff in our playgroup all the time. With birthdays, it just gets a little trickier, you know?

Thanks!

Beth

[g-mama]

When mine were young enough for a playgroup, we would often celebrate birthdays at a playgroup gathering- like a pp said, a little second celebration. The "real" party might have been with family or other friends. It's always fun to celebrate again!


~Kristen

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[August Mom]

Our playgroup always had a playgroup birthday party where we celebrated all the birthdays of the members of playgroup at the same time. We'd do a gift exchange, invite all the parents and get together at the park. Then it was understood that we didn't invite them to individual parties.

In your case, I think I'd either invite them all or invite none of them to your DS's party.