Taking care of baby

[denna]

Let me just preface this by saying I love my DD *dearly*

Now for the bitch...

Dear DH,

Please explain to me how when I am downstairs working on homework and you are upstairs sleeping...because yes I know you have to be at work at 530am, and the baby is in her crib right next to our bed do you not get up and give her her binky when she wakes up screaming not 20 mins after I put her down? Why oh why do I have to trek back upstairs just to give her her binky when you are 3 feet away from her? Not to mention the multiple times throughout the night that I get up to nurse her or give her her paci. Why do I have to go back upstairs to give her her binky? I know you hear her.

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I feel with DC#2 that well over 90% of caring for her falls on me. It was not like this with DS because at the time we were both working FT so the responsibilities were more balanced. Now that I am a SAHM on DD solely nurses (minus the times I am at class) so I am her #1 caregiver. I just wish once in awhile I could have a teeny tiny break.

I think it is all begin to pile on as she is beginning to teeth *and* mid-terms are fast approaching.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

[elephantmeg]

I hear ya. Hugs. SOunds like something DH would do too...

[newnana]

That sucks, Denna. Him working 40 hours a week is nothing compared to being a full time mom. You are a rock star and don't let him forget it.

It's why I work. DH doesn't get it and we would kill each other.... or at least resent each other a whole heck of a lot. And he would expect me to be a stay at home maid/cook. I would much prefer (I think) being a SAHM, but if that were the case it probably would have worked out to me being a single mom because of unreasonable expectations. So I work. Bleh.

In no way am I telling you to do what I do :hysterical: I'm just saying you gotta do what you gotta do to stay sane.

Anyway, I hope you can sit down and talk it over with him and give him a list of specific things that would help when it's not in the heat of the moment. Or specific things that would help if he would not do, if that makes sense.

Because if it was me, I probably would have done something not so nice to him as I gave sweet little DD the binky. And that resentment has a tendency to grow in my head as stress mounts (such as teething and mid-terms, not to mention lack of sleep or downtime).

Hang in there!!