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09-21-2010, 08:34 PM
Lula cut her hair off today. I am heartbroken. It was all the way down her back, lovely and thick and blonde. Ash at the roots and white at the tips from when she was a baby. I was nursing Dolly in another room and came into the living room where I'd left her watching TV and it was to her ears on the left and right. One emergency visit to our local hairdresser and it is an adorable asymmetrical bob and I can't help myself because I hate it.
I loved Lula's hair. I loved braiding it, I loved washing it, I loved running my fingers though it. I loved the way people couldn't resist reaching out to touch it.
It is cute and if we'd done it on purpose I'd be so happy with the results but in my heart of hearts I'm devistated.
I know it is just hair. I know that. She is healthy and happy and it will grow back. I know it but tonight it just doesn't matter because my baby's beautiful hair was swept into a trashcan today and I'm so sad.
09-21-2010, 08:39 PM
:hug: It may be just hair but it was a milestone and something you bonded over and took pleasure in taking care of for her. Not silly at all to be a little sad!
I need a hug, too, right now...so I am happy to share one with you!
09-21-2010, 08:39 PM
Awwww, I'm practically in tears for you! My DD's hair is just long enough for two little pony-tails on top of her head, but the back curls up so cute, and I'd be heartbroken if it was gone. Hopefully you'll get used to it in time...in the meantime, I'm sorry!
09-21-2010, 08:39 PM
I'm so sorry. :grouphug:
09-21-2010, 08:55 PM
Aw, hugs, that's how I wound up with short hair myself, when I did that to my hair at age 7 and even telling my daughter the story didn't stop her from chopping of a chunk of hers in the front a year ago. So many of them do it, now I'm just hoping that the little one doesn't or if she does, it's her that does it and not her sister doing it to her!
09-21-2010, 08:58 PM
Oh I'm so sorry:hug::hug::hug: Yes, it is just hair, but I know you are devastated. Dora's hair grew all the way down her back before we finally cut it. If she took the scissors to herself I would've totally cried. :hug::hug::hug:
09-21-2010, 08:58 PM
DD wanted hers short and asked me to take her to get it cut. It was on purpose, but wasn't much easier. We lost the white blond and all the curls. I was pretty sad about it.
09-21-2010, 09:20 PM
I can imagin how sad that must be for you. Try to enjoy the break from the extra work long hair takes and then just grow it out.
I'm so afraid of my EX cutting DD's hair that I acutally have it in the documents that he can't. Not that he follows the rules, but still, it matters enough to me that I put it in there. So I totally get how you feel.
09-21-2010, 09:22 PM
That is so sad.
09-21-2010, 09:27 PM
Hugs from all of us. Even though I sometimes dream of taking scissors to DDs' hair (just out of desperation) I would be heartbroken also if those curls were suddenly gone.
09-21-2010, 09:33 PM
Oh, I'm so sorry. I'm sad for you. yes, it will grow back, but there's just something about those sweet little curls.
09-21-2010, 09:37 PM
:grouphug: Many hugs to you, mama.
Sending :grouphug:. I would feel the same about DD's hair too.
Coincidentally, we had a scissors incident today too (she cut a hole in her dress) and I thought at the time, thank goodness it wasn't her hair.
09-21-2010, 10:00 PM
Oh no! :hug:
09-21-2010, 10:00 PM
OH NO!!! :hug: :hug:
09-21-2010, 10:11 PM
:grouphug: i'm so sorry
09-21-2010, 10:16 PM
That is such a sad story! Yes it is just hair, yes it will grow, but that is your baby and her beautiful long hair is gone!! It's a loss. I totally get it. :crying: So sorry, mama. :hug:
09-21-2010, 10:22 PM
I'm so sorry. It's so hard.
Something must be in the air, though, bc DS1 took scissors to his and his brother's hair. I wanted to cry, it looked so terrible, and he cut the hair right to the scalp on both of them. So I had to cut their hair as short as I could. I'm still traumatized.
Hope you saved some locks!
09-21-2010, 10:23 PM
:hug: Oh, I'm so sorry. I totally get it. I know it's "only hair" but I too would be devastated if DD cut hers off. :hug:
09-21-2010, 10:43 PM
I would be so sad too. :grouphug:
09-21-2010, 11:01 PM
:hug: I totally understand that you are devastated. I'm sorry!
09-21-2010, 11:15 PM
I know how you feel. I have always loved dd's hair. When she was in preschool, she cut off a big chunk of it, but luckily her hair was so long, that it was still long after the trip to the hairdresser's to even it out.
About a year and a half ago, she decided she wanted to cut her very long hair very short. I felt she was old enough to be able to decide that (and interestingly enough, my mom and I always fought about my hair as a child b/c I liked it long, but she insisted it be short because I "looked better in short hair). Anyway, I talked dd into donating her gorgeous hairgto Locks of Love, as I figured if I didnt get to look at it everyday someone else should be able to. We havent cut it since then, and its now at least the length it was before. It really needs a trim now. Dd hasnt asked to cut her hair and I am dreading bringing up the trim, because I am afraid she will want to go short again.
09-22-2010, 12:29 AM
:hug: I'm sorry. :hug:
09-22-2010, 12:37 AM
BIG HUGS headed your way mama! I'm sure she's darling with a little A-line bob ... but so sorry it had to happen the way it did. Did you ask her why she cut her hair off? How does she like her new short hair? It'll grow... I'm sure it will make her hair nice and thick and healthy. Find the silver lining if you can .... remember it's only hair as hard as that may be to swallow. It happens to almost every girl at some point... either they cut it themselves or they let their friend give them a "haircut". Thankfully you were able to get it cut by your stylist to fix it... my sister's friend once gave her bangs a trim and she had a sticking up little prickly look going on. There was nothing anyone could do ... it just had to grow out.
Oh, so sorry :hug: Definitely save some of the pieces for a keepsake. You will be glad you did even though the haircut wasn't by design.
09-22-2010, 12:42 AM
I'm sorry! :hug: I'd be so very sad, too. Sometimes there isn't anything "just" about hair. :hug: :hug: :hug:
09-22-2010, 03:41 AM
That is so rough! But remember...it will grow back. And if you find out that one of the kids in her school has lice (as we did), you might not shudder quite as much as we did.
09-22-2010, 03:52 AM
:grouphug: I'm so very sorry. Sometimes it's not just hair. I think most mamas get that.
:hug: because I understand she'll never be the same.
09-22-2010, 09:32 AM
I'm sorry! I think sometimes the hardest part is when you don't really have a choice in the matter (you couldn't let her leave it as it was).
Hang in there!!
09-23-2010, 08:53 AM
What is it about that age? They love to cut their hair! My DD did it on Thanksgiving Day when we were all busy with cooking. She was so proud of herself! We kept the big section she cut off; she is 7 now and loves seeing it and telling the story of how she wanted to give herself a haircut! It was such a shock at the time but now it is one of those memories we'll talk about forever!
Awww I am sorry.. I understand.
09-23-2010, 09:16 AM
Oh, I"m so sorry. I'd be devastated too. :hug: Did you take the hair that was on the floor and save some of it? Maybe tie it in ribbon to save in her babybook?
Your daughter sounds absolutely darling. It also sounds like she has a bit of an adventurous independent streak. ;)
09-23-2010, 10:09 AM
Big Hugs to you! It's ok to mourn the loss of her hair. I felt the same way when my dh took it upon himself to cut my son's hair when he was younger...and it was just a trim - not inches of hair.
09-23-2010, 11:03 AM
Hugs to you. If someone hasn't already suggested it try and see if you can find some children's vitamins with biotin in it, that stuff is magic.
Also not sure if it's too late or not, but if you happened to save it could you possibly donate it to Locks for Love? They usually need about 10".
09-23-2010, 12:52 PM
Aww. . . I'm so sorry, especially since the hair was from when she was born.
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