I never anticipated the relationship between XH and...

[Cam&Clay]

DS2. It really touches me to see how XH cares so genuinely for DS2. Tonight, he dropped off DS1 after their evening together and DS2 ran for the door shouting his name. XH scooped him up and played with him for a bit before he had to leave. He asked DS2 all about his birthday yesterday.

All this talk of divorce is what made me really notice this tonight. I don't think most families work the way ours does. XH and I absolutely had to split up, but we have really made the best of a bad situation. He wasn't the happiest guy on Earth when I told him I was getting married and pregnant, but he has made a good effort to get along with DH (and so has DH). I just never expected XH to care this much about our little guy.

He commented once that there was no name for the relationship between him and DS2. After all, DH is DS1's stepdad, but there's no word for XH's relationship with DS2.

[mommylamb]

That's really nice.

[sunshine873]

It's so refreshing to hear about a divorced couple that is able to be civil to each other and still be positive role models for their DC. I've watched so much of the opposite and the ones that suffer are the kids (no matter what the parents say.) Anyway, kudos to you and to your XH!

[lalasmama]

SO is the same way with his XW's DS (now a preteen). It actually used to seem weird to me. He would always invite XW's son to come with he and their DDs, as he didn't want XW's DS to feel left out, as XW and NH (new hubby, lol) aren't active, and don't do a lot of "family stuff". XW's DS even spends the night at SO's house on occasion. I shouldn't have been surprized when SIL's XH (father of older child) is also close to the younger son.

While it seemed weird in the beginning, I love it now. It's great to see that in SO's family, divorce doesn't "matter" and that where kids are concerned, family is family, no matter who fathered the child :)

[belovedgandp]

It's awesome that you have a good relationship for both of your boys.

My neighbor is similar and it always amazes me. His daughter is only two years older than her half sister. But he treats both girls like his own. The girls are here at least a couple nights a week and 90% of the time it is both girls. I always do a double take when it's Father's Day and only the older one is around that weekend.

[DrSally]

That is so touching.

[KrisM]

How wonderful he has that relationship!

[nov04]

Wow, that's wonderful!!!

[citymama]

That is lovely. It sounds like you have a very healthy relationship with your ex and that is part of what makes his relationship with your younger DS possible. And a very secure DH!

[hillview]

I got a little misty. That is very sweet!
/hillary

[egoldber]

That's really wonderful! Kudos to you all for maintaining and fostering such healthy family relationships!

[mezzona]

Aww! That sounds so sweet.

[Sillygirl]

I think it speaks highly of the characters of all the adults involved. Well done.

[salsah]

so sweet. yay for you, your xh, and your dc.