Torn between "Aw, that's sweet" and "WTF?" (updated on pages 6 & 7)

[anonomom]

Let me preface this by saying I have a sweet, thoughtful DH who treats me very well, and I know how lucky I am. But today's my birthday and I have to admit I find my present somewhat...mystifying.

I asked for two things for my birthday -- new perfume or a gift card to a local baby boutique that I'd normally never shop at, so I can buy something frivolous for this baby (due in 12 days!). Got out of the shower this morning to find my two daughters proudly waving envelopes they'd decorated. I opened the first, and it's a gift card, all right -- for ham. Huh. Granted, it's for very nice ham, but ham.

Oh, well. I kind of get it. Back in my first trimester, I was craving ham and begged to get one of those Honey Baked Hams for New Years (and it was quite delicious). So DH is probably being really thoughtful here.

Then I open the next gift card. Again, it's for ham. Huh. Really? TWO hams? What, was there a special? At this point, I don't really know what to think (except that we're probably going to eat a lot of ham in the next few months).

DH had already left for work by the time I opened these, so I couldn't get a sense of what he had in mind when he bought these. I'm sure, knowing him, there's some very reasonable and sweet explanation, but ham? Really? :ROTFLMAO:

[dogmom]

I find my life is much better, and my marriage, if I just accept the gifts given to me with the intent they were given. I wouldn't be surprised if there was another gift, but just go with it for now.

[WolfpackMom]

This made me lol. I hope you enjoy your ham! Happy Birthday!!!

[drwg21]

HAM? I am in the WTF camp - at least until he explains. Maybe 1 Ham I would get, but 2? Maybe he was thinking it would help you on maternity leave with cooking? Maybe something else is coming later today?!?! Keep us posted!

[DietCokeLover]

Ok, that made me laugh. I can't wait to hear more about this.

[lil_acorn]

LOL...being a Bargain I'm sure you'd appreciate that he probably got them at a BOGO sale! KUP on what happened - those are your gifts from the kids - i would hope there's more coming from him!

[brittone2]

Oh boy. I hope you enjoy the hams.

I am with dogmom and really, really try to go w/ assigning a positive intent. It can be hard though.

If he doesn't pull through with the baby boutique GC, can you swing going there anyway and treating yourself to something special for the baby, even if it is something small?

[Green_Tea]

Nothing says Happy Birthday like ham.

Nothing.

[elizabethkott]

Nothing says Happy Birthday like ham.

Nothing.
:yeahthat:

(except TWO hams.)

[SnuggleBuggles]

:yeahthat:

(except TWO hams.)

:yeahthat:

Happy Birthday!!!!

Beth

[shawnandangel]

Your post made me LOL. I hope you enjoy both your hams and have a very happy birthday! :)

[sweetsue98]

First off..Happy Birthday! Second, thank you for making me giggle this morning. I'm in a resturant dining alone and LOL so people probably think I'm crazy. Anyway, I agree that ham is a little mystifying but I'm sure all in good thought. My DH and I agreed that bdays and anniversaries gifts are spa related or on my own. I know its nice being surprised but to avoid a ham situation, I don't mind being NOT surprised:) have a great day!

[sunshine873]

:yeahthat:

(except TWO hams.)

:ROTFLMAO:

Sorry. I've so been there & will probably be right there with you on my birthday (Saturday.) No advice, except if you don't get a GC to the baby store - go get something yourself anyway.

Happy Birthday fellow Leo!

[hellokitty]

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! Secondly, I am :hysterical: that your DH got you two hams as your bday gift. I really hope that he is a prankster and is trying to throw you off and has a really awesome gift that he will give you later, lol. I bet you will never forget the birthday where you got two big ass hams as your gift, lol.

[DietCokeLover]

My birthday is in a couple of weeks. I just read this to my DH under the understanding that this is a What Not to Do on my birthday.

[JTsMom]

:yeahthat:

(except TWO hams.)
:hysterical:

I think the real gift here is having this story to tell for the next 50 years or so. Happy Birthday!

[soon2b4]

Oh my... I might have to copy this into an email to my husband... I could see this happening, with the same sweet thoughtfulness you are talking about.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I hope it is a wonderful day for you!
:D :yay: :D :bouncy: :D :yay: :D

[cvanbrunt]

Here's my guess. Your husband was being sweet and thoughtful with Ham #1, just like you think. Ham #2 is a result of one of the girls being really upset that she doesn't get to give you ham like her sister does because you really like ham and if I can't give her a ham mommy will be really sad and we don't need any baby things because we have a lot and please please let me give mommy a ham too! Sniffle. Then dad buys another ham. At least that's how it would go at my house. Happy Birthday!

[wellyes]

First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! Secondly, I am :hysterical: that your DH got you two hams as your bday gift. I really hope that he is a prankster and is trying to throw you off and has a really awesome gift that he will give you later, lol. I bet you will never forget the birthday where you got two big ass hams as your gift, lol.
That was my thought too, he's being tricky. But don't set yourself up for disappointment by expecting more. Happy Birthday!

[goldenpig]

Nothing says Happy Birthday like ham.

Nothing.

:yeahthat:

(except TWO hams.)

:hysterical:
Love it! You have to hand it to your DH for his um, creativity! :rotflmao:

Wasn't there the saying that eternity is two people and a ham? Or was it one person and two hams?

Ham a happy birthday! :hug:

[Canna]

Oh, my! That's totally bizarre, but thank you for making me laugh!

ETA: Is it possible the DH let the kids pick their own b-day gifts to you and they both chose ham? Sometimes DH will take the kids out to get gifts for me that they choose, and though he tries to guide them, they can be a little random. Maybe DH's official gift to you will be later?

[MaiseyDog]

Here's my guess. Your husband was being sweet and thoughtful with Ham #1, just like you think. Ham #2 is a result of one of the girls being really upset that she doesn't get to give you ham like her sister does because you really like ham and if I can't give her a ham mommy will be really sad and we don't need any baby things because we have a lot and please please let me give mommy a ham too! Sniffle. Then dad buys another ham. At least that's how it would go at my house. Happy Birthday!

That's exactly what I was thinking. At my house, there is no way for one girl to give a gift without the other girl getting to give one as well and usually they have to give the same thing. The little one absolutely will NOT be satisfied unless she can give the same thing her big sister is giving. Needless to say, I get two of a lot of things - two travel coffee mugs, two robes, two necklaces, etc. DH bought me a pair of Uggs for christmas and each girl gave me one shoe. I'm sure there is a backstory to this one.

Happy Birthday and keep us posted.

[g-mama]

I find my life is much better, and my marriage, if I just accept the gifts given to me with the intent they were given. I wouldn't be surprised if there was another gift, but just go with it for now.

I have to disagree here. In this house, mama deserves a nice birthday gift. And if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. ;)

I'd be having a conversation tonight with my dh, making it clear that while I love ham (assuming you do!), HAM is not an acceptable birthday gift and that I will let him have another shot at it. :D

[infomama]

I think he is trying to be thoughtful on the first ham but the second has me a bit stumped. I would be bummed if I were in your shoes. Hope he comes through with the baby store card or perfume.
Happy Birthday though!!

[twowhat?]

We need an update at the end of the day!!!

[Katigre]

My first thought was that he used a Groupon ;).

[Jo]

I love your two ham gift. :ROTFLMAO:

When I had a new baby, all I wanted was food, food, food; and I had no time to make it.

So I think your DH is being super-thoughtful. And maybe there was a BOGO special!

[justlearning]

Maybe he's very clever...

Hams from your little "hams" and something sweet-smelling from your sweetie tonight?

Happy Birthday!

[Globetrotter]

This is why I buy my own gifts. I get what I want, no expectations, and everyone is happy! Have you recently expressed a desire for ham?

That is pretty funny, though :tongue5:

[misshollygolightly]

Happy birthday! Ham it up! :ROTFLMAO:

Seriously, this is the greatest birthday story I've heard in a loooong time. And I just love that the giftcards were in separate envelopes, born by each of your daughters. TOO hilarious! Here's hoping your DH was just being...ahem...a ham...and actually has something sparkly or perfumey or whatnot wrapped up for you this evening!

[AnnieW625]

Happy Birthday, and that is sweet! My DH would do the same thing, at least you have holiday meals covered, or even a night when you don't feel like cooking with a newborn. I love Honeybaked Ham's take out options, their potatoes are super cheesy and to die for. Enjoy! And go and buy the new baby something frivolous today!:)

[Dream]

We need an update at the end of the day!!!

:hysterical::yeahthat:

[artvandalay]

:yeahthat:

(except TWO hams.)

:hysterical::hysterical::hysterical:

[happymom]

:hysterical:

I think the real gift here is having this story to tell for the next 50 years or so. Happy Birthday!

:yeahthat: Happy Birthday! :banana:

[deborah_r]

I have not read beyond your OP, but I want to tell you your post gave me a great laugh that I really needed. Your DH sounds sweet; it is a a bit odd but I'd just go with it. Maybe there is another gift coming later! :)

[deborah_r]

Oh, my! That's totally bizarre, but thank you for making me laugh!

ETA: Is it possible the DH let the kids pick their own b-day gifts to you and they both chose ham? Sometimes DH will take the kids out to get gifts for me that they choose, and though he tries to guide them, they can be a little random. Maybe DH's official gift to you will be later?


LOL, DH let the boys pick my birthday gifts this year. I got $20 in Baskin Robbins gift certificates from DS1 (who, as it happens, loves to go to BR) and a superhero action figure from DS2 (who of course immediately wanted to "borrow" it!) But I think I'll remember those longer than if they got me slippers and a new wallet :)

[mom2one]

Happy Birthday!

I think most of us don't get what we want for our birthdays. Yes, we need an update!

[anonomom]

Thanks, y'all. I am dying laughing reading all of your responses.

I will definitely update tonight.

[mommylamb]

I'd be careful eating that ham if I were you. I'm thinking there has got to be some sort of jewelery baked inside, right?????

Please let him not have put perfume in the ham.

[mommylamb]

LOL, DH let the boys pick my birthday gifts this year. I got $20 in Baskin Robbins gift certificates from DS1 (who, as it happens, loves to go to BR) and a superhero action figure from DS2 (who of course immediately wanted to "borrow" it!) But I think I'll remember those longer than if they got me slippers and a new wallet :)

When I was a kid, my mother let me pick out a birthday present for my father and I bought him a pink pen that had Playgirl on the side. This was before I could read.

[Edensmum]

Maybe someone told him taking care of dinner when you are pp will be really helpful and he thought two birds... lol, enjoy your ham.

[Snow mom]

This thread is hilarious. Maybe he got you the hams so we could all chuckle over it ;) Happy birthday. I agree with PP that if he doesn't come through with another gift you should treat yourself to something. I always get the best gifts from myself.

[MotownMom]

Maybe I am in a crummy mood, but I do not think there is anything cute or sweet about getting a grocery product (let alone 2) for my birthday. Since when is a grocery staple a gift??? Did I miss something??? Ladies, we need to rise up or 5 pound bags of flour are not too far behind...

[Indianamom2]

Ok, that made me laugh. I can't wait to hear more about this.

:yeahthat: The story should be interesting. Maybe he doesn't want you to have to cook after the baby's born? And he happened to remember that you really craved ham?

If he's like my husband and he heard me say that I actually liked something a lot, he will lock on that one thing and you might get a lot of it!:hysterical:

[BayGirl2]

I so can't wait to read OP's update at the end of the day to know if there's a bigger story around this. Its been making me laugh since I read it this morning. I need to share with DH too bc he is not the best gift giver and would likely lock in on "she likes ham" and get me one 6 months later.

ETA: Seriously, I can't stop wondering about this ham story and how it ends. Need an update so I can get back to work.

BTW: I hate Ham, this may be my worst nightmare 9 mos pregnant birthday scenario.

[bisous]

I LOVE this thread. Like other posters mentioned, enjoy your Hams! :)

BTW, I totally craved salty meats (like ham!) during my first trimester.

[MissyAg94]

:hysterical::hysterical::hysterical:

[Corie]

Your DH is nicer than I am!!

I only bought my husband ONE Honey Baked Ham for his birthday!!

(What can I say? He LOVES ham and I was totally out of ideas.)

[AbbysMom]

Happy birthday! I think you should print out this thread and show him. He's really made your birthday special for everyone today :)

So funny! Can't wait for the update. Do you think he's sad he missed your reaction to the 2 ham gift? or did he scoot out early and tell your kids to give you the ham GC's when he was gone on purpose?

[MamaMolly]

Ok, that made me laugh. I can't wait to hear more about this.

:yeahthat: I'm sure there is a good story. Looking forward to your update, and Happy Birthday!!

[Cam&Clay]

My first thought was that he used a Groupon ;).

:yeahthat:

That was my first thought, too.

[Melbel]

Happy birthday and thanks for the laugh! Way to keep your sense of humor. :)

Add my theory...

I think the Honey Baked Ham gift cards at Costco have 2 certificates. Any chance your DH shopped at Costco?

[logan's mom]

I have a friend whose husbands bought her a basket of all the things she couldn't have while she was pregnant as her pushing present. Maybe your husband was thinking along the same lines and there are some more gifts coming your way.

[daniele_ut]

Are you Costco members by chance? I seem to recall that they were selling a 2 pack of Honeybaked Ham gift cards for a discount.

Either way, I'm LOLing at your dh!!

[anonomom]

Happy birthday and thanks for the laugh! Way to keep your sense of humor. :)

Add my theory...

I think the Honey Baked Ham gift cards at Costco have 2 certificates. Any chance your DH shopped at Costco?

Aaand we have a winner! Just talked to DH (he isn't home yet, so no news on other possibly forthcoming presents). He was a Costco with his boss and saw the gift cards for a discount, and bought them thinking it was a good deal and would be nice after the baby comes. Then he decided it'd be funny to have each of the girls give me one for my birthday. He says he thought about sticking around to see my reaction, but thought it would be funnier to leave me a little mystified.

And this is why I love my husband. He's just the right mix of thoughtful and weird.

[s7714]

:hysterical: That is too funny!

ETA Just saw the explanation. I'd be asking him where the non-edible portion of my gift is! ;)

[BayGirl2]

That is cute. At least he knew it would be humorous! Not like he was doing it seriously.

So you can kind of expect an additional gift later tonight, since this was sort of from his boss? Good luck with that one and happy birthday!

[DietCokeLover]

Mystery solved!

[happymom]

LOL, so if this was his "funny gift" maybe there's another one coming...

[blondflava]

That was a fun thread to read!
Is there a 'to be continued' part about the 'real' gift? ;)

[veronica]

happy birthday!

Send me your address. I'd like to send you a can of pineapple

or two ...............

[veronica]

I just have to add that I have visions of OP delivering her son and getting on the phone to the people in charge of her girls saying:
"oh, for lunch, you can give them:
ham
ham sandwiches
ham & cheese
ham salad
ham kabobs
han wraps

[DrSally]

Aaand we have a winner! Just talked to DH (he isn't home yet, so no news on other possibly forthcoming presents). He was a Costco with his boss and saw the gift cards for a discount, and bought them thinking it was a good deal and would be nice after the baby comes. Then he decided it'd be funny to have each of the girls give me one for my birthday. He says he thought about sticking around to see my reaction, but thought it would be funnier to leave me a little mystified.

And this is why I love my husband. He's just the right mix of thoughtful and weird.

LOL about the Costco deal! Too funny! I hope you have split peas on hand for soup!

[trcy]

Ok, that made me laugh. I can't wait to hear more about this.
:yeahthat: I vote wtf :hysterical:

[shawnandangel]

Too funny. Guess your dh thought he would "ham it up a little" ;)

Thanks for the update, and the giggles you gave me today.

[dcmom2b3]

Aaaak! There was a "creative uses for leftover ham" thread a couple of years ago. I have it bookmarked on my work computer, can send you the link tomorrow.:thumbsup:

Hope your birthday was a super happy one, hams or no!

[Globetrotter]

Good answer, DH! :thumbsup:

[Melbel]

Aaand we have a winner! Just talked to DH (he isn't home yet, so no news on other possibly forthcoming presents). He was a Costco with his boss and saw the gift cards for a discount, and bought them thinking it was a good deal and would be nice after the baby comes. Then he decided it'd be funny to have each of the girls give me one for my birthday. He says he thought about sticking around to see my reaction, but thought it would be funnier to leave me a little mystified.

And this is why I love my husband. He's just the right mix of thoughtful and weird.

Thanks for the update! Your DH is a brave man messing with a very pregnant wife on her birthday! Honey Baked ham has turkey, sandwiches and side dishes too if you are looking for other uses for the certificates (of course the ham is the best though)!

[JoyNChrist]

:hysterical:

I think the real gift here is having this story to tell for the next 50 years or so. Happy Birthday!

:yeahthat: Happy Birthday!

[anonomom]

Thanks, all, for the giggles and the birthday wishes. You'll be happy to know that DH came through with a "real" present -- the perfume I asked for, and an Ipad speaker dock thingie. I did in fact have a lovely day, replete with ham jokes.

[WatchingThemGrow]

Thanks, all, for the giggles and the birthday wishes. You'll be happy to know that DH came through with a "real" present -- the perfume I asked for, and an Ipad speaker dock thingie. I did in fact have a lovely day, replete with ham jokes.
Phew!!! So glad he came through!
We'll all remember your birthday now and your DH's sense of humor.

[SkyrMommy]

Thanks, all, for the giggles and the birthday wishes. You'll be happy to know that DH came through with a "real" present -- the perfume I asked for, and an Ipad speaker dock thingie. I did in fact have a lovely day, replete with ham jokes.

Sounds wonderful and funny! So glad you had a happy birthday. :hug:

[JTsMom]

:applause: Love it! Thanks for updating. I laughed just as hard reading through a second time!

[BDKmom]

Then he decided it'd be funny to have each of the girls give me one for my birthday. He says he thought about sticking around to see my reaction, but thought it would be funnier to leave me a little mystified.

And this is why I love my husband. He's just the right mix of thoughtful and weird.

How would we get through life without our goofy DHs.

Super fun thread to follow today. Thank him from all of us for the giggles. And thank you for sharing your day. Hope it has been a great birthday. And I wish for you lots of smiles every time you eat the ham in the coming weeks and remember all of the jokes made here today. It's the gift that keeps on giving.

[MamaSnoo]

I just saw this. It was a long day today.

But, I wanted to say happy birthday for at least the last couple hours! Your DH is adorable, and I can just invision your two little hams with their cards. So sweet!

Again, happy birthday, and was a great set of updates!!!:cheerleader1::cheerleader1::cheerleader 1:

[elektra]

Thanks, all, for the giggles and the birthday wishes. You'll be happy to know that DH came through with a "real" present -- the perfume I asked for, and an Ipad speaker dock thingie. I did in fact have a lovely day, replete with ham jokes.

Yay! Happy birthday. :)

[elbenn]

Hammy birthday!

[Melaine]

I just saw this. It was a long day today.

But, I wanted to say happy birthday for at least the last couple hours! Your DH is adorable, and I can just invision your two little hams with their cards. So sweet!

Again, happy birthday, and was a great set of updates!!!:cheerleader1::cheerleader1::cheerleader 1:

:yeahthat:

[hellokitty]

Thanks, all, for the giggles and the birthday wishes. You'll be happy to know that DH came through with a "real" present -- the perfume I asked for, and an Ipad speaker dock thingie. I did in fact have a lovely day, replete with ham jokes.

:bighand: