DS, I am so sorry!

[weech]

I was holding DS while walking into daycare this morning and I somehow fell on the path that leads around to the entrance. Not sure if it was a bit of ice, or an uneven walkway or what. DS fell with me and I wasn't able to hold on to him. His face hit the paving stones! He has a big bump on his forehead and scratches next to his eye and on his cheek and nose.

I feel SO AWFUL. I know it's crazy that in 22 months DS has never had a major fall/accident, I just feel so guilty that I'm the one who caused his first. I always thought I'd have some awesome motherly instinct kick in if I ever fell so I'd be able to protect him and I just couldn't.

Super heart-breaking. I'm so sorry, DS :( Mama didn't mean to hurt you!

[hellokitty]

Aww, poor guy. Try not to be too hard on yourself, it was an accident.

[elektra]

Oh no! Sounds like he is ok though. Try not to feel guilty- it was just an accident. Hugs.

[Giantbear]

Two months ago, i was carrying dd in the living room, she was 18 months, when i tripped on her toy and had my feet swept out from under me. I twisted best i could as i fell, but i am sure i saw her head hit the ground and she let out a wail. I bruised my legbone and bruised my acl, but all i could do was hug her and apologize. She was crying hysterically until i realized she had dropped her toy, and once she had it back, was fine. No damage, no head trauma, just a scare for daddy and daughter.

We often think that being parents makes us super-people, that we can protect our children from accidents and the world by sheer will, and it unfortunately is not true. We do our best, but accidents do happen and our children do get hurt. Your son has some bumps and scrapes, but will have no memory of the fall. You did not cause the fall, that is why it is called an accident. Give him an extra hug and cookie tonight and forgive yourself for ultimately being human.

[TwinFoxes]

Oh ouch! I'm so sorry. Don't blame yourself, accidents happen. I'm sure he doesn't even remember. :hug:

DD had a tantrum and flung herself down the stairs, I had a chance to grab her ankle and missed. She was on her back and slid head first down the entire flight so I was staring at her face the whole way down. I still can't believe I missed her ankle, and I see her little face going bump bump bump down the stairs. :( Luckily she was fine, but boy did I feel crappy. How could I miss the grab? (I feel I've played enough sports that I should be able to grab a slow moving ankle).

[Kymberley]

I'm sorry, I know how you feel. I fell down our stairs holding DS when he was an infant. I banged his head on the wall, but fortunately most of the damage was to my own body. It didn't stop him from screaming for the next 30 minutes though. It's heartbreaking. And ditto to everything Giantbear said.

[jenfromnj]

I'm sorry! I agree with the others, though, it's ultimately much more traumatic for you than for him!

I was walking up our outside steps last winter after taking DS out to play in the snow (he was just under 2 also, IIRC), and I slipped on some ice and went flying forward. His head literally bounced off the top step, but I was so concerned about him falling down or off the steps that I didn't even try to prevent his head from smashing the top step. He was fine after a few minutes, and had a bump that took a day or 2 to look better, but I cringed at the thought of it for long afterwards. So you're in good (or bad?! ;)) company.

[BabyBearsMom]

Poor guy! I'm sure he will be fine though and you did the best you could. I fell with DD last winter when it was icy. She was fine, but I was absolutely traumatized. I now make DH bring DD to daycare whenever the weather is even slightly slick.

[crl]

I am sure it was much more traumatic for you! It was just an accident. :hug:

Catherine

[Staraglimmer]

Hugs mama! You didn't hurt him. You fell. The fall hurt him. There wasn't anything you could do. I'm sorry DS is hurt. Sounds like he will be okay though.


-Stephanie
Mommy to Hailey Michelle 4/08
& a new addition due 7/1/12

[BabbyO]

Hugs mama! You didn't hurt him. You fell. The fall hurt him. There wasn't anything you could do. I'm sorry DS is hurt. Sounds like he will be okay though.


:yeahthat:

I hope YOU are ok, too!

I almost dropped both boys when walking into church New Year's day. I couldn't see the uneven pavement because of DS2's carrier and I tripped carrying the baby in his carrier and DS1 on my hip. Neither of the boys were hurt, but I twisted my ankle pretty good. Hopefully you are ok, too!

[Mommy_Mea]

:hug: Been there!

When DS1 was 15 months old, I was wearing cheap, floppy flip-flops carrying him up a set of granite steps. I tripped over the front of my shoes and dropped him. I sound of his head hitting the granite still makes me shudder. He was *totally* fine, but I was traumatized for days after that.

I did throw out all my flip-flops and bought nice, close fitting (but super cute Born!) sandals.

[lmh2402]

:hug: :hug: it was an accident. but i totally understand how you feel. i felt that way when i helplessly watched DS fall all the way down our front porch steps and land face first on the concrete...i just couldn't get there fast enough.

i still think about it and the guilt is tremendous still...even though it happened over a year ago.

i hope he's better soon and that you can try to forgive yourself. it wasn't your fault

:hug: :hug: