so...what, if anything, should i try re: PT?

[lmh2402]

i'm getting really, really, REALLY tired of changing diapers

DS has been sitting on the potty with regularity before nap and bath and bedtime for months and months and months

he very willingly heads right to the potty after i take off his diaper.

but that's as far as we are able to get.

if i ask, at any other time, if he needs to use the potty, he says, "nope. you can change me later."

if i ever ask if he will try to poop on the potty he says, "nope. i don't want to."

and that's that. i'm not going to push it. but i also don't know how to jump start things or move past this seemingly-never-ending holding pattern.

i have purchased underwear, which he likes to look at and says he wants to wear. but i'm not going there. we tried about 4 hours of the "3 day PTing" back in august and it was a massive backfire. so, until he's ready i will not put underwear on him again.

he wakes up soaked from every nap and every morning. but during waking hours, he occasionally has days when his diapers are very dry between morning and then nap time, when he'll then pee a river on the potty before nap

anyway, any suggestions? is there ANYTHING i can/should try/offer/talk about/do?

anything? thanks

[WatchingThemGrow]

SAME game here. Except....that DS2 has been able to pee and poop on the potty since Dec. 2010. Fourteen MONTHS of buying and changing diapers when he has already demonstrated his ability to go in the right place. I have no idea what to do either.

The one thing that works is going to a public restroom. One boy heads to one stall and another boy to another stall. The 2 year old locks the door quickly, undresses, looks around to throw the diaper at me from under the door, then pees and gets his pants back up, diaperless, nonetheless. He's fast and wants nothing to do with me helping him. Pee in the potty at home on his own? No way. That's for other people. I'm just praying that spring in our backyard will be the thing that sets him free like it did DS1.

Maybe I need to have a talk with him about it and see if I can get through to him that way. I just want to stop buying diapers for just ONE of my DC. DD can't stay dry overnight to save her life. DS2 is dry overnight way more often than his siblings.

[lmh2402]

SAME game here. Except....that DS2 has been able to pee and poop on the potty since Dec. 2010. Fourteen MONTHS of buying and changing diapers when he has already demonstrated his ability to go in the right place. I have no idea what to do either.

The one thing that works is going to a public restroom. One boy heads to one stall and another boy to another stall. The 2 year old locks the door quickly, undresses, looks around to throw the diaper at me from under the door, then pees and gets his pants back up, diaperless, nonetheless. He's fast and wants nothing to do with me helping him. Pee in the potty at home on his own? No way. That's for other people. I'm just praying that spring in our backyard will be the thing that sets him free like it did DS1.

Maybe I need to have a talk with him about it and see if I can get through to him that way. I just want to stop buying diapers for just ONE of my DC. DD can't stay dry overnight to save her life. DS2 is dry overnight way more often than his siblings.

oh my gosh. i wish both of us luck soon! i'm actually amazed that he can go into a stall on his own and take care of business. DS, admittedly has some motor delays, but he can't even pull his pants down or up on his own. :6: i had this "dream" that when the new baby came, i could take the changing table out of DS' room...no, we don't use the actual changing surface anymore, but we certainly use all the storage b/c we are still using DIAPERS! and wipes. and diaper cream b/c he gets sore at times. gah!!

[daisymommy]

DS1 was 4 before he would PT. :(
I [would] just kept on encouraging, taking him to go as often as he would go, and then one day my DS said "Mommy, I don't want to wear diapers anymore". I said nonchalantly so as not to show him how thrilled I was, and thus make it a power thing "okay, sounds good" and threw the package in the trash. After that, he had maybe 2 accidents.

I too tried pushing him before that, because I knew he was capable of doing it, but it backfired and he had a huge breakdown. Totally awful and not worth it.

Sigh, with some kids like ours, it just takes a long time. Keep doing what you're doing!

[lmh2402]

DS1 was 4 before he would PT. :(
I [would] just kept on encouraging, taking him to go as often as he would go, and then one day my DS said "Mommy, I don't want to wear diapers anymore". I said nonchalantly so as not to show him how thrilled I was, and thus make it a power thing "okay, sounds good" and threw the package in the trash. After that, he had maybe 2 accidents.

I too tried pushing him before that, because I knew he was capable of doing it, but it backfired and he had a huge breakdown. Totally awful and not worth it.

Sigh, with some kids like ours, it just takes a long time. Keep doing what you're doing!

oy...thanks. why did i have a feeling that's what i was going to hear. i'm just so...over it. oh well. it is what it is. thanks ;)

[AngelaS]

Run out of diapers and don't buy more. :) He obviously knows that he can be lazy, use his diaper and you'll change it. He's big enough to use the potty.

My youngest had been wearing diapers to nap and bedtime for months after she was using the potty during the day and then on Christmas, I realized we didn't have any more diapers. Whoops. I told her that if she needed to go potty, she needed to get up and go. She did. She never had another accident.

[lmh2402]

Run out of diapers and don't buy more. :) He obviously knows that he can be lazy, use his diaper and you'll change it. He's big enough to use the potty.

My youngest had been wearing diapers to nap and bedtime for months after she was using the potty during the day and then on Christmas, I realized we didn't have any more diapers. Whoops. I told her that if she needed to go potty, she needed to get up and go. She did. She never had another accident.

yeah, i really can't do this. sort of tried this in a way, with the 3-day potty training method we tried in August, after he had been going to the potty before nap, bath and bed for already almost six months. Tt totally backfired and resulted in him not going NEAR the potty for over a week without crying hysterically. I think it could work for some kids, and I really wish he were one of them b/c I would love to just go cold-turkey, but I don’t think it will happen that way for us

BUT, I really don’t understand the resistance in him. b/c he can talk about using it. He knows all the kids in his nursery class use the potty/wear underwear at this point – he’s the only one still not trained. He says he wants to wear underwear. But then…when it comes down to it, he just…is either too lazy/busy/involved in playing…or something about it is…scary? I don’t know. I really don’t get it. But it’s extremely frustrating. Especially as I know when he’s going to poop. Like I know it’s coming and I say, “do you want to come sit on the potty and see if you can poop in there?” and he instantly says, “no.”

Why??!!! Why not?! :banghead:

[Tinochka]

I found out quickly, if I ask, do you want to go potty? 100% the answer will be “NO”. So, I change it to “Let’s go potty”. Didn’t work that they, then “Will you go YOURSELF or MAMA will take you”. 90% was “I’ll do it”.
Just “run out of diapers”, excitedly give him BIG BOY undies (love Hanna ones). He will wet them, put a basket with a fresh ones for HIM to change. See, how he will react on your reminders about going potty or set up timer and say that once it’ll be beeping it is HIS JOB (they like to feel power of themselves) to go potty...
If that things set up both of you upset, then do whatever is good for you. Give it to try again later.

[wellyes]

If what you're doing isn't working, stop. It's probably turning into a power struggle, which may just end up dragging things out. Try again in 3 months.

What ultimately worked for us was bribing with m&ms. She peed, she got one. Poop, two. After about 2-3 weeks I phased out the candy. But I don't think it was the bribe that did it, her desire to get out of diapers was definitely the most important factor. She was 3.