If you are invited to a bridal shower, but don't go, do you still send a gift?
Was invited to a shower but couldn't attend, now wondering if I should send a gift.
RE: If you are invited to a bridal shower, but don't go, do you still send a gift?
I always do. And I received a bunch of gifts from people who could not attend mine.
Barbara-mom to Jack 3/27/03, a Red Sox fan
expecting #2, a Yankee fan, around 5/9/05!
RE: If you are invited to a bridal shower, but don't go, do you still send a gift?
Deb,
I decided to consult my trusty Amy Vanderbilt! She writes, "As only the closest friends of the bride are asked, it is usual--but not obligatory--for invited guests to send a little gift when they cannot attend."
She goes on, "Of course, if the hostess has erred in asking a mere acquaintance of the bride to attend a shower for her, then the recipient of the invitation is under no obligation either to attend or to send a gift. She must, though, in all courtesy, reply to the invitation."
Hope this helps! FWIW, I answered "yes" to your poll!
RE: If you are invited to a bridal shower, but don't go, do you still send a gift?
I answered "no" but think it would really depend on who the bride is. If it is someone fairly close to me, I would definitely send a nice gift. If the bride is not somewhat close to me I would send a card with best wishes.
RE: If you are invited to a bridal shower, but don't go, do you still send a gift?
I chose depends upon the bride, as I would DEFINITELY send a gift for a friend's shower. But all the invites I get for people such as children of my mother's friends, nope. I ALWAYS send a gift for a wedding, going or not, but the shower gift is only required if I go. I do think this particular etiquette issue is a regional thing, though.
RE: If you are invited to a bridal shower, but don't go, do you still send a gift?
If I wasn't able to attend the bridal shower, I'd just buy a more expensive gift for the wedding. (I answered "no" in the poll)
RE: If you are invited to a bridal shower, but don't go, do you still send a gift?
I say that it depends. The point of most of these showers is so that they'll get gifts - so I find that anybody gets invited. It depends on who the bride/grrom is if I'll give her a gift. Sometimes, I bump up the wedding gift if I didn't give a shower gift either.
-Sonia