We're not cancelling Christmas just because you're having a baby!
Dear Cousin's Wife,
I know that your baby is due January 3rd. So does everyone else in the family, because you remind us multiple times whenever we see or talk to you. I also know that you have gestational diabetes and high blood pressure, because you've had everyone in the family on "high alert" since you entered your second trimester, and you've been to the hospital for false alarms approximately 20 times. And I also know that the doctor said he might induce labor early, because you freaked out and made me move your shower date up two weeks (which was really inconvenient, by the way), the very first time he even mentioned the possibility of inducing at 37 weeks (and I didn't even argue with you, even though the shower would have still been early enough...but whatever, anything to keep the pregnant lady happy, right?).
I get it. Really, I do. And so does everyone else in the family.
But I'm sorry darlin', we're not cancelling Christmas because you might have the baby that week. We understand that if you do have a brand-new baby, you won't be able to get your Christmas shopping done and wrap presents. No problem. We understand that you won't be able to bring anything for the family dinner. No problem. We understand that you and your husband may be too tired to come at all. No problem. But we're still having Christmas! We are not going to wait and get together two weeks later in order to accomodate you. And frankly, I'm astonished that you would suggest it.
I realize that the birth of this baby is the most important thing in the world to you right now. And I get that. Totally. I was there myself pretty recently. But it's not the most important thing in the world to the rest of us. We're happy for you, we're excited for you, we'll do anything in the world to help you. But we're not going to totally rearrange our lives just because you're having a kid. Let me let you in on a little secret...you did not invent pregnancy. You're not the first person in the world to have a baby. You're not even the first woman in the world to have a difficult pregnancy. We've all bent over backwards to help you in any way that we could (me more than anyone, including your freaking husband), but cancelling a national holiday that's...oh...two thousand and seven years old? And also happens to be my baby's first Christmas? That's where I draw the line.
Get over yourself. Seriously.
I'm willing to overlook the fact that you've done absolutely nothing since the two lines appeared on the stick but whine about how uncomfortable and miserable and tired and unhappy you are. I can even ignore all the drama you've created with the "unexplainable" symptoms that always seem to require rushing to the ER at midnight, where the doctor can never seem to find anything wrong with you.
But this latest request just absolutely floors me. Especially when you consider the fact that you live literally two minutes from our grandparents' house, where we'll all be gathering for Christmas, so it's not like we're asking you to cross the freaking Arctic tundra in order to celebrate with us.
You wanna know what I really think? I think you're spoiled and selfish and lazy and attention-hungry. That's what I think.
But you'll never hear me say it, because I'm not going to hell for making a pregnant lady cry.
Last edited by JoyNChrist; 12-07-2007 at 04:40 AM.
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Mommy to A (5) and twins E & S (1.5)
The biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make...I did not live in the moment enough. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less. - Anna Quindlen