We're not cancelling Christmas just because you're having a baby!

[JoyNChrist]

Dear Cousin's Wife,

I know that your baby is due January 3rd. So does everyone else in the family, because you remind us multiple times whenever we see or talk to you. I also know that you have gestational diabetes and high blood pressure, because you've had everyone in the family on "high alert" since you entered your second trimester, and you've been to the hospital for false alarms approximately 20 times. And I also know that the doctor said he might induce labor early, because you freaked out and made me move your shower date up two weeks (which was really inconvenient, by the way), the very first time he even mentioned the possibility of inducing at 37 weeks (and I didn't even argue with you, even though the shower would have still been early enough...but whatever, anything to keep the pregnant lady happy, right?).

I get it. Really, I do. And so does everyone else in the family.

But I'm sorry darlin', we're not cancelling Christmas because you might have the baby that week. We understand that if you do have a brand-new baby, you won't be able to get your Christmas shopping done and wrap presents. No problem. We understand that you won't be able to bring anything for the family dinner. No problem. We understand that you and your husband may be too tired to come at all. No problem. But we're still having Christmas! We are not going to wait and get together two weeks later in order to accomodate you. And frankly, I'm astonished that you would suggest it.

I realize that the birth of this baby is the most important thing in the world to you right now. And I get that. Totally. I was there myself pretty recently. But it's not the most important thing in the world to the rest of us. We're happy for you, we're excited for you, we'll do anything in the world to help you. But we're not going to totally rearrange our lives just because you're having a kid. Let me let you in on a little secret...you did not invent pregnancy. You're not the first person in the world to have a baby. You're not even the first woman in the world to have a difficult pregnancy. We've all bent over backwards to help you in any way that we could (me more than anyone, including your freaking husband), but cancelling a national holiday that's...oh...two thousand and seven years old? And also happens to be my baby's first Christmas? That's where I draw the line.

Get over yourself. Seriously.

I'm willing to overlook the fact that you've done absolutely nothing since the two lines appeared on the stick but whine about how uncomfortable and miserable and tired and unhappy you are. I can even ignore all the drama you've created with the "unexplainable" symptoms that always seem to require rushing to the ER at midnight, where the doctor can never seem to find anything wrong with you.

But this latest request just absolutely floors me. Especially when you consider the fact that you live literally two minutes from our grandparents' house, where we'll all be gathering for Christmas, so it's not like we're asking you to cross the freaking Arctic tundra in order to celebrate with us.

You wanna know what I really think? I think you're spoiled and selfish and lazy and attention-hungry. That's what I think.

But you'll never hear me say it, because I'm not going to hell for making a pregnant lady cry.

[himom]

You wanna know what I really think? I think you're spoiled and selfish and lazy and attention-hungry. That's what I think.

But you'll never hear me say it, because I'm not going to hell for making a pregnant lady cry.

Honestly Stacy, I think you are more likely to merit applause from the rest of the family rather than a direct trip to H-E-double-hockey-sticks. And I can guarantee you would've gotten a high-5 from me!

Just think, you get to have the rest of your life with her comparing her baby with yours.

Sorry, I'm not helping. I'll change tactics....

You are a saint for putting up with so much so far and you're doing great. Of course you should make your baby's first Christmas the priority! I hope you can relax and have a nice holiday with your family.

Jodi

[Sillygirl]

I know there's a "Pregnant Princess" syndrome, but your cousin's wife is the whole damn Tudor Court. Nice rant. Bet it felt good.

[elizabethkott]

Yeish.
Would she like to cancel New Year's as well?
Not for nothing, I was due Jan. 3rd last year. And Christmas was FINE. Someone's being a drama queen. Her poor DH. That man is a saint. Someone take him out and get him a beer or something!

[lizajane]

so here's the thing about christmas...

it IS about a pregnant mom.

it IS about the birth of a baby.

it IS about the miracle of that baby.

but here is THE thing...

the baby's name is JESUS.

so unless your cousin's wife is delivering the second coming of Christ child...

Christmas is STILL ON.

edited to note: so i totally think i am outrageously witty ;, but i do also sincerely believe that christmas is about jesus' birth.

[Piglet]

so here's the thing about christmas...

it IS about a pregnant mom.

it IS about the birth of a baby.

it IS about the miracle of that baby.

but here is THE thing...

the baby's name is JESUS.

so unless your cousin's wife is delivering the second coming of Christ child...

Christmas is STILL ON.

Okay, that seriously had me snorting coffee out my nose!!!

[LarsMal]

so here's the thing about christmas...

it IS about a pregnant mom.

it IS about the birth of a baby.

it IS about the miracle of that baby.

but here is THE thing...

the baby's name is JESUS.

so unless your cousin's wife is delivering the second coming of Christ child...

Christmas is STILL ON.

BWHAHAHAHA!!! Too perfect!

Oh yeah, and I was due Jan. 9th, scheduled for a c/s Jan. 3, had both Thanksgiving AND Christmas at MY house and had DD four days after Christmas. Tell her to get over herself. She's *just* pregnant (insert winky face, but I can't figure out how to add them yet!)!!

[katydid1971]

Deep breaths. As the PP pointed out Christmas is still on. Let her whine in the corner, my SIL does that EVERY holiday and she hasn't been pregnent in years. Just think you can enjoy a nice glass of wine with her whine

[niccig]

DS was born on Christmas Day, he was due on Dec. 17th. So, if I can be in Whole Foods on the afternoon of the 24th, EIGHT days after my due date, buying prepared salads for Christmas dinner, then your cousin's wife can get to your family's dinner. For the record, we did postpone Christmas until the 27th, but it was only DH and my parents. Everyone else celebrated it on the 25th.

[elizabethkott]

so here's the thing about christmas...

it IS about a pregnant mom.

it IS about the birth of a baby.

it IS about the miracle of that baby.

but here is THE thing...

the baby's name is JESUS.

so unless your cousin's wife is delivering the second coming of Christ child...

Christmas is STILL ON.

Ooh! ooh! Get her to ride on a donkey or a camel for a couple of days! Then maybe she'd deliver a little early, and she'd be too tired from taking care of a newborn to whine on Christmas day!
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