RE: long rant ! my landlord is bothering me... what would you do?
Do you have a Tenant Advocate for your city? We have one here and he was full of advice when I was going through similar issues with an old landlord. Here in NJ if something isn't repaired (and repaired PROPERLY) within a reasonable amount of time - say one week, you can legally have the work done by an outside repairman and deduct the bill from your rent.
I would make sure that he doesn't have keys - might not be a bad idea to make a trip to Home Depot for a new lock.
DEFINITELY document everything. If nothing else, it will help you get your security back down the line if the guy turns into a prick when you decide to move out.
Is he the owner or just the building manager?
As far as the knocking thing goes, what about having your husband/SO say something to him? If he's knocking with an intent of coming in for a so-called inspection, I would say, "Sorry - inconvenient time. Come back at such and such an hour tomorrow" and just close the door. Have you also thought about leaving a little erasable memo board attached to your door (a la dorm room) so that he has no excuse (I didn't have a pen) about not leaving a note?
Sorry he's such a creep....
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