Yes, I KNOW you told me so.....

[KYBelle1102]

DH & I adopted our DS. We were in the delivery room when he was born and it was amazing. I had pretty well accepted that was as close as I was going to come to experiencing childbirth. Spencer just turned 8 months old. Now, much to my surprise, I found out 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant (now 10 1/2 weeks pg). Apparently, DH and I are the only ones surprised by this news because EVERYONE "knew this would happen as soon as you adopted a baby." Funny, I never saw adoption listed as a treatment and cure for infertility in the AMA guides that I read during those 2 years and 12 cycles of fertility drugs and artificial inseminations....

Could I possibly just ONCE tell someone we know that I'm pregnant without hearing "I told you this would happen" "See what happens when you just relax?" or "You know this very same thing happened to ..." Even MY DOCTOR gave me this same load of crap!! How about "Congratulations! That's wonderful." Granted, I'm still in the stunned/confused/freaking out stage and I vary minute-to-minute on exactly how wonderful this news is, but the fact that I have to listen to a 1000 "I told you so" comments isn't helping.

Thanks for letting me vent.... And if you know someone who adopts a child and then gets pregnant, spare them the "I knew this would happen" remarks. Adoption is NOT a cure for infertility... And if you know someone struggling with infertility, don't suggest that they adopt a child because then they will get pregnant...

[lmladuke]

Hey Becky - Congratulations on your pregnancy. That's wonderful :)

Lori

[cinrein]

Congratulations Becky! How wonderful!

I'm sorry people can't resist the urge to say "I told you so". It seems people say all kinds of dumb things to a pregnant woman. I hate to tell you, but it doesn't get any better as your pregnancy progesses. Don't let them rain on your parade!

Cindy and Anna 2/11/03

[bluej]

Congratulations! I would be so tempted to say 'well you know that's why we adopted Spencer in the first place don't you? So we would become pregnant.' I can't even imagine what kind of response you would get, but if they thought about it, you are saying exactly what they are and just maybe they'll realize how absurd they are being. I'm afraid this is something that you are going to have to hear for the next several months and quite possibly several more after that. Seriously though, Congratulations! I'm sure Spencer is going to love being a big brother!

[trumansmom]

Yippee!! What a wonderful thing to have to bitch about! Congratulations on your incredible blessing!

Jeanne
Mom to Truman 11/29/01 and Eleanor 4/14/04

[Marisa6826]

Congratulations!!!

Welcome to the December/January gang!!

-m

[ismommy]

What wonderful news. Congratualtions!

[redhookmom]

Congratulaitons!!

I like Jen's response say "You know that is exactly why we adopted."

[mamahill]

How about:

"Holy cow - congratulations!!!"

[momathome]

What fantastic news, Becki! You must be thrilled! :)
-Lauren