Growing up in the Midwest I always envisioned a buffet dinner at my wedding like all the others I attended. Now that I'm engaged, we have decided to get married in his hometown of Memphis, and traditions are quite different. The major issue I'm still dealing with is wether to have a buffet dinner or "heavy hordourves".

The reception probably wont start until 8 pm (wedding mass at 6:30 pm), so it could go either way. My family has never heard of heavy hordourves, and his family had never heard of a buffet wedding. Heavy hordourves is much more disorganized, since not everyone is sitting at the same time, so I'm a little worried it will be harder to give toasts, etc. The wedding is semi-formal. Any advice?