Why do I feel like bawling like a baby every moment of the day in the past 2 days? I know the hormaones are raging but I think I'm actually feeling depressed - pre-birth depression? I've just entered my 33rd week today. Baby has been kicking or moving a lot and I mean A LOT the past few days. People say that's a good thing. It means he's healthy. But it's up to the point that I feel uncomfortable and in pain at times. But if he doesn't move, I worry too and if he moves too much, I feel uncomfortable (and also sometimes worry if he's in distress or what for moving so much?). As most of you can guess, this is my first pregnancy (and might just be my last at the rate things are going). Everything's like a big question to me. And when I was crying my eyes out last night, it just baffled my DH. He was trying to find out what I was feeling I guess...and asked me THE question that I could never answer..."what's wrong?" And all I could do was cry even louder. Everything's wrong. Nothing's wrong. I DON'T KNOW. Why asked me that question? I tried calling my best friend down in Mississippi just now to talk but couldn't get a hold of her (I'm probably the only one who doesn't have a life right now). And my 2 closest friend here are moving west (one has already moved and the other one is in the process of moving). I feel happy for them but at the same time feel so sad because I feel like I'm losing my friends and feel so alone at times. I'm currently not working and am thinking of being a SAHM if finances permit. That means more seclusion? Don't get me wrong. If I have a choice, I would definitely want to stay at home with the baby and our 3 dogs - all my babies:) But I feel so cut off from the rest of the world sometimes. Don't you feel it's much harder to make close friends the older we get? Maybe it's just me. I don't have any family here. Most of them are halfway across the world. And my mom who was plannig to visit us in June MIGHT just postpone her trip right now due to SARS. And she wants me to decide when she should postpone the trip to (her ticket is valid until March 2004) and I don't know when. WHY DO I HAVE TO MAKE THE DECISION? I want her to come but I wouldn't want her to come in the next 2 yrs if SARS is still a threat. Not only is it a possibility that she may expose herself to this disease on her flight here, it is a possibility that she may expose the disease to baby too. SIGH.....decisions..decisons. DH's family are great but live in another state (7 hrs drive away). It looks like it'll just be me and DH when baby arrives. Who's going to watch the dogs when we're in the hospital (which is like 40 minutes away)? We never leave them with a sitter before (I guess it's time to look for one). The kennels are out of the question. The oldest girl will never forgive us. Haven't finished shopping for baby yet. I feel so tired and exhausted to even continue after months of diligently researching all the necessary items for baby but not all the purchases have been done yet. I have yet to purchase anything for myself such as bras, pads etc. I called the lactation consultant at the place where we took the childbirth classes and she recommended purchasing bras in my 9th month. So I told DH I'm not going to worry about it (since I always worry a lot and too much too many times) and that if the baby decided to come earlier, I'll just get something from the hospital if necessary at that time. Of course both of us don't know if the hospital has anything, and DH is the one who always say I have to relax and don't worry so much suddenly decided to say to me that the hospital might not have anything and might expect us to get our necessary items somewhere else. So now he's making me anxious and worried and I feel like I have to make a decision whether to get these things, where and when...which all depends on when the baby comes (I do want to get them before the baby arrives) which is basically unpredictable. And when I told DH he's making me worried by saying things like that because I feel like I have to make a decision now, his response was "what's the big deal?" in reference to the bra. And I just lost it...and told him the big deal was if I'm leaking after giving birth (which I don't even know at this point what the situation would be like), I don't want to have to scotchtape breast pads onto my breasts to keep myself from looking wet on our way home:) Now that I think back, it seems pretty funny but I was so exasperated at his response at that time. The room is not really ready yet...We still have windows to fix up or may just replace the windows...more expenses! We would definitely have to replace our roof this year before the next winter...more debts! Isn't anything free (in dreamland)? Sometimes, I actually wonder why did we get pregnant now? Am I going to be a horrible mom? Recently, I was pretty short-tempered with my oldest dog. I think the only word she heard from my mouth the past 2 days was "NO." She seems to want to bark at every little noise she hears or every thing or every one she sees through our living room window even if they are so far away (she's very protective) and that gets the 2 younger dogs all riled up as well and I really think baby can hear them because everytime the dogs bark, the baby seems to kick even harder! Will I be able to get through this stage or the next 2 years? Now I feel like crying again.
I think I'll better stop. Thanks for letting me vent.
Chris