RE: How do you divide deceased's belongings without fighting?
An old friend of mine was one of 7 kids. When his parents died, the oldest brother went thru and made a master list of everything in the house. It said things like "mantle" "top bookshelf to left of fireplace" "second from top shelf", "grandfather clock", and so on.
Then the 7 kids gathered at the house (no spouses, no kids) and they drew numbers to see who went first. Then they took turns picking who got what. If you wanted the clock on the mantle you got EVERYTHING on the mantle.
Anything you got in your 'lot' that you didn't want, they put in the garage and it was free for the taking. There was NO fighting and some trading after about 8 rounds of picking but it went extremely well and everyone got several of the key things they reallllly wanted.
Mommy to 3 girls: A, G and M. (15, 11 and 8.5)
The education of all children, from the moment that they can get along without a mother's care, shall be in state institutions at state expense.
– Karl Marx, "The Communist Manifesto"