RE: I need help...
please please please throw the "rules" out the window. do what YOU think is best. what YOU want to do. clearly, you are taking good care of your child, which is most important. now, onto the next most important- taking good care of YOU. if you need to sleep, then make it happen. if that means nursing every time she wakes up because it ends the wake-up fast, then do it. if that means letting her cry, then do it. BUT promise me one thing: DO NOT SIT THERE AND LISTEN TO HER CRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! use the light on the monitor and glance over at it every now and then. DO NOT sit outside the door and listen to ever whimper!!!!! it won't do either of you any good!!!
if you need to let her cry, it sounds like going back in is just making it worse. that is what happen with schuyler. once i left him alone, he went to sleep within 20 minutes. and the next night, 15 minutes, and the next night, fewer than 5!
if CIO isn't for you or doesn't work for her, then nurse!!! dylan is 16 months and STILL doesn't reliably sleep all night. my PED told me to turn off the monitor. um, no. (we are talking about a baby who i have found covered in vomit in the middle of the night on more than one occasion this spring...) CIO just does not work for him. he will scream until morning. my mom said i was the same way. he just gets louder and louder... i have been THAT desperate. and i tried and tried to make CIO work. it just didn't work for him. so i nursed him back to sleep. then i got to go back to sleep.
you are not doing anything wrong. just be sure you take care of YOU, too. taking care of yourself IS taking care of you DD. she needs a rested mommy!!!!
Liza has been hangin' around this board for six years.
My sons are 4 and 6. And they are very loud.