RE: If you kept your name when you married..
I have no BTDT advice for you, as my DD is only 9 months and school seems like a loooong way off. But, yes, my DH and I have had this conversation periodically over the past 5+ years and I recently have done some serious thinking on the subject. Like you, very few women in my area keep their last name. Some things would be simpler if I had DH's last name, but I found that a simple "I chose to keep my name for professional reasons" is sufficient to clear up most confusion. (or, in my case, was - now I'm a SAHM) I know that most of DD's future teachers will probably call me "Mrs. DH Lastname" at first, but, honestly, if they are capable of learning so many students' names, learning yours won't be that hard on them.
In my experience, people who just *can't* get it right are purposely choosing not to get it right because they disagree with a woman not taking her husband's name.
I have no idea why this matters so much to your DH *now*. Perhaps your DH may have always felt this way and never voiced it??? (forgive me if I am wrong). I just remember before our wedding Dh and I had MANY discussions on the subject. I finally asked him if he really wanted us to have the same last name, would he consider changing his name? I asked how would he feel giving up his name, would my name feel/sound odd, would he lose some of his identity? Point was made and my DH understands and respects my decision, although he admits to being a tradionalist and would like us to have the same last name, especially with DD in our life.
Kerri
I guess after all these years of being a Packers fan, I've also got to start cheering for the "Niners"...
DD 11/09/06
DS 06/09/09