RE: Spanking - firm swat, or over the knee?
">My petite mother spanked all three of her daughters (and even
>some of my rowdy (now 6 foot) male cousins); my dad did not.
>We obeyed mama; we sassed and pushed the limits with our poor
>daddy. We each say that our mother was our "parent" because we
>knew where our boundaries were with her and we did not want to
>reach those limits. Spanking did not teach us to hit others
>as you suggest, but to respect authority. We became a lawyer,
>a teacher, and a medical professional--not criminals.
>Heck--we don't even have a speeding ticket between the three
my parents did not spank me, my sister or my brother. while my sister did have the whole "hate your parents because you are a rebellious teen and are full of angst" thing, NONE of us got into any real trouble. ALL of us respect our parents. All of us listened to what they had to say, obeyed their rules, didn't lie and did well in school. We all have very good relationships with our parents as adults (and a young adult, my brother is 10 years younger than I and is still only 21.) oh- and my sister had undiagnosed ADD until age 20, if that gives you an idea of what kind of child she was.
edited because i thought i sounded mean and that wasn't my intention. just have strong feelings.
Liza has been hangin' around this board for six years.
My sons are 4 and 6. And they are very loud.