I am at my wits end with DS. He is 2 1/2 and will not listen at all. I know this is a stage that many go through, but he resists everything and is driving me crazy.
Background - he has always been headstrong but has been much worse lately. We just adopted our DD 6 weeks ago and he had no advance preparation. I know that some of this is to be expected with a new sibling, but how much? She is now almost 11 months old and into everything, so he has to deal with her getting into his toys etc.
Any ideas on what to do? I have 1-2-3 Magic but DS loves to count and every time I say "1" he says "2-3!" How can I implement this, or is there a better method?
He wants to play the computer or watch Blue's Clues all day. So, I spend the whole day saying no and then dealing with his screaming tantrums. Then, when it is time to come to the table, go upstairs for a nap, change a diaper, get in the car (or anything) he just says NO! Short of dragging him everywhere which is hard with 20lb. DD in tow, I can't get him to do anything.
I'm crying now as I write this because I am so frustrated. I find myself yelling at him constantly and I don't know why because it doesn't change anything. I am embarrassed to admit this, but I have even been spanking him on occasion because it's the one thing that grabs his attention. He absolutely wouldn't go up the stairs for his nap today - just stood at the bottom of the stairs - so I smacked his rear. Then he is crying and goes up. Upsairs, he looks at me with these big tears and says "sorry Mommy" and then I'm crying too. He was even more upset then because I was "sad too". Of course, that won't matter the next time he wants something he can't have!
Anyways, sorry to ramble on so long. DH just left for 6 days and I'm feeling anxious that I'm already at the end of my ropes! Please tell me that I haven't spoiled him rotten and that things will get better! Also, any input on how much slack to give him while he adjusts to being a big brother? I don't want to be too hard on him, but if it's time for him to get over it, I don't want to be too easy!
If you've made it this far, thanks for listening. I feel better just getting it off my chest. I'm going to start by working on not yelling so much. Poor DD and DS must think I'm a hag!!