RE: How long does it take your 3.5-4 yo to get ready in the morning?
It takes me anywhere from half an hour to 45 minutes, occasionally an hour, to get out the door with DS from the moment he wakes up. I also need time to dress so this time is not entirely devoted to DS' routine.
DS gets up, goes to the bathroom to pee right away and helps himself to a banana, which I have to peel. He'd eat a bit of cereal and drink some milk, if I pour it for him but we do not have breakfast at home every morning, just on days that we are running late and know that he'd miss breakfast in preschool. I do not expect DS to take he's PJs off or dress himself, I know it would take forever and we do not have this time. Unlike you, I do not have another child to take care of so this approach works for us.
Mom to DS born on Thanksgiving 2003