RE: For BF moms...how did DH help you?
Hmmm, how to say this without sounding bitter. There is no real point in telling your "ignorant" husband anything other DH's do. Your DH either gets it or he doesn't. You won't change him, and you will end up feeling hateful if you try. The worse part of being a SAHM is when your own DH doesn't understand or appreciates how hard it can be.
I wish I could give you some simple something to tell your husband that will "make" him see the light but I can't, or else I'd have said it to my DH. Find a mantra, something like "At least he takes out the trash" and repeat over and over.
OK with that out of my system, to answer your actual question, once I halfway recovered from my c-section my husband didn't do much at all. I let him get away with that partially because he does wake up at 4:30am and works 12 hour shifts, and because until recently we co-slept. Just today he went in and comforted DD for the 3rd time in well, almost 10 months.
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