you are not a bad mommy
Originally Posted by
ha98ed14
Plus, I don't bf, CD, baby wear, co sleep. It is not that I don't agree with it; I think it is probably the better choice, but for me, my PPD was really hard. I actually had feelings of resentment for DD for the first several months. I did NOT want to bf, wear a sling, or do extra loads of laundry full of doo doo. I feel bad about this, guilty that I could not be a better mom who was/ is attached and happy about it.
I don't bf, cd, baby wear, or co sleep either. I also work full time. None of these things are better choices or worse choices or good choices or bad choices. They are my choices. It's tempting to look for validation of your choices, I know. But try not to. Guilt will get you nowhere. Someone will always tell you how wrong you are and someone will always tell you how right you are. You love your daughter and take care of her. That's all that's important. All the other stuff is detail. Attachment is the emotional bond that forms between an infant and the primary caregiver. A good, secure attachment can be achieved with all varieties of "details".
Please cut yourself some slack on the slap. You clearly know that isn't the style for you. You will develop what works over time.
Carrie
DD#1 September 2005
DD#2 October 2007
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