Today we went to a playground for our first playgroup. Dora was on this structure that has musical chime bars. Arwyn was up there first with a boy about 9 months older. Both of them were yanking the bars back and forth and just loving it. The mom of the boy was a little nervous because he has older sibs and so is used to playing rough, but he was just fine. Then Dora comes over and wants to play, and starts pushing. Then she yells, "share!" which is really her code word for "my turn, you go away." I keep telling her share means everyone gets to play, but she started pushing the boy. That's when I got stern and told her to stop. She started to push again, and I said, "Dora if you push the boy over you're getting a spanking." Finally I had to go up there because I was afraid she would push him over and he'd get hurt, even though the mom was more concerned he'd hurt Dora :lol: Anyway, I grabbed her away because she was getting more het up and I took her to the side, told her if she couldn't play nicely with the boy and take turns we'd have to go home. That quieted her down for a while, but it happened a couple of more times and I had to intervene with the "you have to take turns or play on this side." There was room for two kids to play next to each other. But both Dora and the other boy wanted to grab bars in front of each other
I'm just wondering what is a reasonable expectation for her age when it comes to playing with other kids on a single toy/structure/station. I keep explaining what share means, or tell her she needs to take turns, can't push, etc. This all happens at home, but it's the first time I've seen her do it with another kid. There were a lot of little boys on the structure who's mommies were on top of them too, but I didn't know how old they were. They were either Dora's size or bigger, so maybe they were the same age? Mostly they were making sure the boys didn't step on Arwyn or accidentally bump her, because she was crawling all over.
Later I saw Dora on another wide slide going down with a little boy. MIL said they were holding hands while sliding together. Her theory: Dora finally found someone the same pace :lol:
Anyway, I was just wonderin'