Originally Posted by
Babywhite
I know that if I were sick, I would try any reasonable “medical technique(s)” to try to get better – believing that it would only work if God meant for it too -- so do I do the same thing here?
This is pretty much how I feel. I'm treating infertility like an illness, and I'll treat it in any way that I can (at least to the point where it becomes physically or financially destructive).
I'm a Christian, and I'm dealing with secondary fertility issues (no problems at all conceiving, carrying, or delivering my DS, then four miscarriages since). I have always felt that God wants me to be happy, and that He knows more children will make me happy, so He will be okay with me doing whatever I can to have more children.
But the flip side of this is that I believe He will bless my efforts UNLESS they become the focus of my life. I have to keep believing that He is in control, that He is still sovereign and perfect and looking out for me even if I don't get the results I want. When I start making an idol out of the fertility issues (obsessing over it all the time, unable to focus on other things), or when I start becoming resentful, bitter, or overly angry, it will be time for me to step away from trying to conceive.
Hugs to you, mama. It's hard.
Stacy
Wife to K
Mommy to A (5) and twins E & S (1.5)
The biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make...I did not live in the moment enough. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less. - Anna Quindlen