I realize people don't mean to be malicious when they ask but this still annoys me. DD is about three months away from her 1st birthday
DH and I have decided we don't want to have a birthday party. I plan on decorating her high chair with balloons and making her a cake with a nice frosting that she can lick and/or smear all over her face. We may invite the grandparents over but given her birthday falls on the middle of the week, we may or may not do that. They're coming over that weekend anyway.
We are not and dont plan on inviting anyone else. Friends and family act like we're depriving DD because we're not inviting everyone over. It's just annoying to have people question what you're doing. One person told us we we should definitely give her a party and offered to let DD share her sons birthday celebration. Nice offer but we don't need it or want it. We're not not having a party because we can't afford it but because DH and I think it's a waste for us. We're spending the money that would have gone on a party for some nice things we want DD to have. I don't knock anyone who chooses to have a big blow out party for their DC's first birthday- that's their choice but it's something we don't want to do. Why are people acting like we're depriving her of basic sustenance? Puhhhleeze.