Would you invite them to your party?

[moonsky]

We are having a 1st birthday party for DC#2. I am still debating whether I should invite some of DC#1's friends and their family. As majority of pp we invited are more adults and theme setting is somewhat formal - tablecloth, flower, not kid theme, and no games for kids. So, I am not sure whether they will enjoy it. Also, some of kids' older siblings are quite wild. They were screaming, running, climbing at DC#1's party.

I do like their parents though I am not closed to them. We never hanged out beside briefly chat while waiting for our kids. They did invite us to their kids' birthday party because our DC#1 was in the same class with them. I do not want to upset them since we live closeby. WWYD? TIA!

[egoldber]

How old is your child #1?

But I don't think that in general you need to invite your other child's friends. If the custom in your group is to be invited to all the parties, that's a little trickier, but it's perfectly OK to have a more adult oriented party for DC#2. That's what we did.

They were screaming, running, climbing at DC#1's party.

This is a big reason I don't like having kid parties at my house. I can enjoy it without having to worry about kids destroying my house.

[moonsky]

How old is your child #1?

But I don't think that in general you need to invite your other child's friends. If the custom in your group is to be invited to all the parties, that's a little trickier, but it's perfectly OK to have a more adult oriented party for DC#2. That's what we did.



This is a big reason I don't like having kid parties at my house. I can enjoy it without having to worry about kids destroying my house.

My older one is 3yrs old. The ones that I am concerned of are their old siblings - 6 yrs old and up. They were so loud last time . The preschoolers surprisingly were nice. They played with the games I provided without complaining. Older siblings on the other hands were not interested and kept climbling and screaming. Their parents just let them do whatever they want. I was so afraid that they would get hurt.

[new_mommy25]

I wouldn't invite them.

[egoldber]

Older siblings on the other hands were not interested and kept climbling and screaming. Their parents just let them do whatever they want. I was so afraid that they would get hurt.

Older kids are just well, older. And bigger and louder. The loudest and wildest party we had was Sarah's 7th party with only 5 kids, but all age 7/8. It takes a fair amount of planning and lots of activities to keep kids that old busy for any length of time.

[Melanie]

If you want, I'd have a birthday playdate separately if you're planning such a formal party. Maybe call it 'playdate with cake' say no gifts, etc. so you don't feel obligated to do gift bags, games and another meal?

[SnuggleBuggles]

If you want, I'd have a birthday playdate separately if you're planning such a formal party. Maybe call it 'playdate with cake' say no gifts, etc. so you don't feel obligated to do gift bags, games and another meal?

It doesn't sound like the party you have planned currently is kid friendly so I probably wouldn't invite kids.

Beth

[stella]

I asked a lot of questions in your invitation thread, but now I see that most of them were answered. I agree - no kids!

[gatorsmom]

I don't think you should have to invite the friends and parents of your other children. Cha Cha and Gator each have their own groups of friends who are closer in age to them. I wouldn't invite Gator's friends to Cha Cha's birthday party and vice versa. And as your children get older, I think that will be even more true.

I wouldn't invite them.