I would definitely be hurt if a good friend skipped out on my baby shower for that reason, even if I hadn't seen her all that often recently. I flew across the country 1 week before my own wedding to attend the wedding of a childhood friend I only see once or twice a year, though, because I still consider her a good friend, so take my opinion FWIW.
Daniele
mama to
dd1 watching over her brothers and sister from Heaven
ds1 13 years old
dd2 10 years old
ds2 6 years old
Placenta Increta/c-hyst survivor