Originally Posted by
m448
No offense to the OP but I'm always a bit confused regarding this question. Do parents of more than one child get asked which kid comes first? We are a family, sometimes someone's needs are more immediate than another person's and it rotates. The most important lesson DH and I have learned in our time together as parents is that if we want to have time to nurture our relationship then we pull up our boostraps, roll up our sleeves and get the day to day done together - faster.
You know the saying sex starts in the kitchen? I believe that a good marriage starts in the mop bucket/dirty diaper changing/lawn mowing/etc. but done together. Because I
cannot fathom having any sort of positive feelings to someone who hangs back, arms crossed impatiently wondering why they aren't coming first.
I always answer this with "WE put the kids first." They are the product of our marriage, a responsibility we chose to take on and caring for them is our priority. They are needy when they are young, we've accepted this. It also depends on what we are talking about. I won't leave DH stranded to avoid waking a child from a nap, but I'm not gonna leave a sick child to go on a date either, KWIM?
D, married to B, momma to DD1 (7/08) and DD2 (8/10)