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    Default I can't stand my neighbors......

    I thought they were fine when we moved in but ugh...lately they are making me nuts. They have one kid who is so horribly behaved that neighborhood kids run and hide when he starts to come over. He hits my son constantly. One night the kids, DH and him and his dad were down at a fishing pond in the neighborhood and the kid kept hitting DS1. DH kept telling him to stop and his dad did absolutely nothing until DH exploded and they left. (They have a history of not disciplining at all....the kid yells and screams at them to do what he wants and they DO IT.) Tonight he came into my backyard (uninvited as usual) and within 5 minutes had clocked DS1 with his Nerf gun. DS1 yelled over to the dad that the kid had hit him again and his response was "quit tattling". WTH??? And not to mention when we first moved in the wife asked DH for his cell phone number "in case they needed to get in touch with us" and kept texting him CONSTANTLY until he finally was rude and told her to quit. So inappropriate. I have had it with him coming over uninvited and being such a brat. I can't decide what to do but I need to make it clear that until the hitting is under control he is not welcome here. DS1 has a huge welt on his head and I am just fuming.
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    That sucks. I'm so sorry to that you guys have such crazy neighbors. I wouldn't allow the kid to come over if he was hurting my child. But I'm also a chicken. I would like to think that I would tell the parents that until their child stop hurting your child, it isn't a good idea to have playdates.

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    Can you fence in your yard? Would that keep him out? I would cut off all contact with the family. They are just being disrespectful and inconsiderate.
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    Our yard is fenced but he opens the gate and comes in. I just texted the dad a picture of my son's welt and told him he's not welcome here anymore. His response was that his kid hitting him was appropriate because my son yelled that he wasn't his friend. Um, seriously? If that's your attitude no wonder your kid is such a brat.
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    I would so be putting up a fence! If that is not cant happen. I would march the brat right back home every time he pops up. Tell him your child is not allowed to play with him anymore. You may have to say is 5 plus times, but eventually the whole family SHOULD get a hint.

    Sorry you are having to go through this.

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    I would be tempted to tell both parents: "I am sorry, I feel bad for you son since he obviously wants to play with mine. But since we've had several incidence of him hitting my son, sometimes in your presence, and you doing nothing, my son no longer wishes to play with him. Since I'm worried about the safety of my child, and you do not seem concerned about it, I cannot have your son over our house or yard."

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    When unwanted boy arrives, firmly tell him he needs to leave and physically escort him if necessary.

    It might be best if you can catch him at the gate and let him know, in no uncertain terms, that he is not welcome unless explicitly invited and he is not invited right now. With older children, I can be a bear about their behavior at my house, especially if it involves being mean/physical with my kids.

    Can you add a lock to the gate or otherwise physically block his access?

    You can also be proative and catch him, outside at his house or elsewhere, and let him know that his behavior is unacceptable and he is not welcome to come over anymore. That might be a better choice but involves running into him elsewhere. I would not likely go over to his house just because his parents sound like a nightmare.

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    I would walk him back home every single time he came over.

    It's one thing if he's just annoying, but he's physically hurting your son and the parents have made it known that they don't care. If they can't get the gumption to do the right thing on their own, I'd have a zero tolerance level.

    My youngest DS is "spirited" and has some impulse control issues. He generally does NOT intentionally hurt people, but when he does there are immediate consequences. Today he kicked his music teacher's car (totally random, no clue why, he loves her!) and went into time out immediately. Yes, the kid may be challenging to parent, but that doesn't mean that they can just check out of their responsibilities!

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    That's what drives me nuts...I would discipline my child if he hurt someone else immediately. His dad just texted me again saying he won't coddle his child and kids need to work things out on their own. What he doesn't get is that my kids keep telling him to go home when he comes over because they have no desire to play with him. He said I'm teaching my kid to tattle. Maybe I should teach him to knock his kid out and get it over with since that's more in line with his parenting style. grrrrrrr....
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    Just write him back and say "we are on the same page, our children shouldn't play together anymore because our parenting styles don't match. All the best Nikki". That's it, delete further texts. Tell his son "I'm sorry, you can't play here now". And hope they move before he's a teenager.

    Oh, and the dad's an ass.
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