Originally Posted by
g-mama
Thank goodness my boys do not get invited to every party that is held simply b/c they are one of the boys, or one of the classmates! We would go broke buying gifts and would spend every weekend hitting the party circuit.
They have told me about quite a few parties they knew about that they weren't invited to and they don't question it....because they are not friends with that child and wouldn't expect to be.
Perhaps (but not definitely) if your class is 12 people, like in preschool, it is different. But in elementary school, where my kids have 24-29 kids in their class? No way.
The only time DS was invited to an "all class" party was a jump-house party in pre-K. Most parties have been a selected portion of the class. Our parties for DS have been home parties with fairly short invite lists of the kids he played with at recess. Last year he invited two boys he wanted to be better friends with but that hasn't worked out which is turning into a life lesson no-one wants to learn.
OP is doing what the teacher/school has put into place so she shouldn't feel bad or piled on.
FWIW, when DS was making his invite list one year and I saw it included all but three boys from his class, we trimmed down the list instead of expanding it (one excluded boy was mean to DS and I wasn't going to make DS invite that kid) for both financial and the "class health" social reasons listed by pp.
eta: to answer the original question, we use the school's preferred method which is getting the class list from the teacher/room parent and email parents asking for mailing addresses. I like to send actual invitations, but may end up using evite since I generally have to email the parent initially anyway.
Last edited by rlu; 10-13-2011 at 01:49 PM.
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