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    Didn't think I'd ever be posting one of these questions, but here goes!

    DD is invited to a party for a boy in her class (the whole class-8 kids-were invited). The problem lies in that the party is also for an older sibling that we don't know. It's a 1st grader and a 4th grader (according to DD).

    I bought a Target gift card for the boy in her class....and then realized that I should probably also get the same thing for the other boy....right? DD doesn't know the older boy as far as I know, so this feels awkward, but what is the right thing to do?
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    Canna is offline Platinum level (1000+ posts)
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    In this situation (joint party for 2 siblings not close in age, not family friends, one is a classmate) - I think I would bring a gift only for the classmate of DD's.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Canna View Post
    In this situation (joint party for 2 siblings not close in age, not family friends, one is a classmate) - I think I would bring a gift only for the classmate of DD's.
    Thanks for doing a much better job of summing up my post than I did!

    I just have no idea what the "norm" is here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Canna View Post
    In this situation (joint party for 2 siblings not close in age, not family friends, one is a classmate) - I think I would bring a gift only for the classmate of DD's.
    Mommy to 2 DS's (2003 and 2007)

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    We always have joint parties for our kids (their birthdays are 6 days apart), and I hand out different invitations specifically because I would never want someone to bring a gift for the sibling they don't know. I vote one gift. They probably won't open gifts at the party anyway (I would think it would take too long for both kids to open gifts, etc.).

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    We've gone to joint parties before. We would only bring a birthday present for the person who invited us. One gift should be fine.
    Mom to two beautiful DDs

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    Quote Originally Posted by Canna View Post
    In this situation (joint party for 2 siblings not close in age, not family friends, one is a classmate) - I think I would bring a gift only for the classmate of DD's.
    Ditto!

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    Same here.

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    I always find those situations awkward. I've always bought two gifts.
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    No, I don't think you need a gift for the older silbing. I always have joint birthday parties for my kids just b/c their birthdays are close together and they enjoy the joint parties. I never tell people that its the other dc's party as well, as I would feel bad if they felt they needed to buy a gift for both children. Of course, some know already or find out and sometimes, if not too awkward for me, I actually make a point of telling them that they don't need to bring a gift for my other dc.
    lucky single mom to 20 yr old dd and 17 yr old ds through 2 very different adoption routes

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