A friend is having an affair. Do you tell you significant other?
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03-22-2012 #1
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do you tell your so that a friend is having an affair?
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03-22-2012 #2
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I would.
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03-22-2012 #3
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Yes probably because I would need to talk with someone about it and he's my BF. It would really bother me if a friend was doing that to her family (and its the whole family that suffers). DH wouldn't tell anyone else.
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03-22-2012 #4
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Yes, I would talk to DH.
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03-22-2012 #5
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I would need to spill. How close are you to the friend? Do you ever go out with them as a couple. In that case, I would have to think twice. DH wears his heart (full of love or contempt) on his sleeve. It is tough on your friend's family, but also on yours. That sucks. I am not even comfortable watching people cheat on tv! That said, I was close to a friend who was dating a married man maybe 15 years ago. His marraige was terrible and my friend was tortured about it. They are now happily married for years. But still, the right thing to do would have been for him to end his comittment before entering into a new one. Ugly.
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It depends.
If my best friend or sister was having an affair, then no, I don't think I would unless I was seriously worried about their safety or mental state.
I assume if I know about it it is because they trust me to keep it a secret, and I would not betray that trust, even if I thought what they were doing was wrong.
A not-very-close friend, he would probably know before I did.
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03-22-2012 #8
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Yes I would, for the reasons cited by PP's. DH and I share everything and I know he wouldn't tell anyone. Thankfully I've never been in that position of a friend having an affair.
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03-22-2012 #9
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Yes, this is my thoughts exactly
Originally Posted by buddyleebaby
It depends.
If my best friend or sister was having an affair, then no, I don't think I would unless I was seriously worried about their safety or mental state.
I assume if I know about it it is because they trust me to keep it a secret, and I would not betray that trust, even if I thought what they were doing was wrong.
A not-very-close friend, he would probably know before I did.
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03-22-2012 #10
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The person who had the affair is and was a friend of my bf first. However sheis now a close friend of mine with a chikd similar in age. They dont live close anymore but its not to say we wont hang out
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