My 20 month old has few words and a huge sense of entitlement. She has been throwing full tantrums for a while now. I take things from her, she flips. Like full on hyperventilating on the floor hysterics. I'll distract her, scoop her up and let her cry on me or walk away. I generally walk away when all else fails and then she just follows me screaming. I have had to build up my noise tolerance and tell myself that if I'm actually trying to make a child happy and she is set on screaming herself silly, I'm still being a good mom. Easy distractin activities for her include washing hands, picking out a new outfit, dumping out a container of something and "organizing it", trying on mama's shoes or daddy's hats.
I also have a very dramatic and LOUD 3.5 year-old. She was pretty easy-going until 2 though.
I have developed the ability to hear my children without hearing the noise they are making. It's the only way I don't lose my mind when BOTH girls go off like siren because I refuse to allow TV during dinner.
Taking the tantrummer outside seems to help. A walk in the stroller, sitting in the yard, even standing outside of our church. Tantrums caused by ridiculousness seem to not carry over well to new location. Even DD1 seems to stop and catch her breath if I suggest walking to the mailbox, even if she is crying because DD2 got the cuter pancake.
D, married to B, momma to DD1 (7/08) and DD2 (8/10)