He doesn't even need a salesperson to convince him to spend more. Eg. today he went off to REI for some things for upcoming camping trip. I looked up what would be good as it was cooking things and wrote down what to get. He pretty much got everything that was 1-2 price points higher and got extra things that we just don't need. We don't camp all that often and it's car camping, so we don't need ultra-light, more expensive equipment. I was able to talk him out of some things that I am returning tomorrow, but it's still more than what should have been spent. His argument is that it's better quality and will last forever, but sometimes it is still way overkill for the amount of use the item will get.
We have a few things coming up that I know will be an issue. One is we're getting ski boots next season and I just know he'll hone in on the super expensive pair that even ski instructors don't have as they cost too much. We're still beginner skiers and will at most ski 1-2 times a season.
We have a 2 week vacation planned and I commented on how much it will cost and he said that this time it won't as we won't eat out as much. But once we're there, he will want to eat out and will want to order the super expensive bottle of wine, and I said as much.
So my question, how to have this discussion with DH without sounding like a mother saying "we don't need that," or "that's too expensive."
Do I need to have the conversation beforehand and have us agree to a budget amount?
Do I need to go with anytime there's potential to overspend to ward off the purchases before they happen?
He did comment when he got home today he was surprised at how much it all came too and said every little thing adds up, so I wonder if he's not doing the mental calculation of how much the total bill will be, but once he's at the register he won't say no to something and he won't return it after the purchase either.
Thanks.