We've had that too. It got to a point that the same piece of wax was in there for months. I took a bulb syringe full of warm water and had him lean over a towel. I squirted a tiny bit of water in his ear which loosened it up then I scraped it out with a bobby pin. You have to use your own judgement because they aren't supposed to get standing water in their ear with tubes. My son's ear was almost closed with the wax and imo, a little water was safer than doing at the dr. My son didn't put up a resistance at all but i'm certain he would have for the dr. I do have an otoscope that i got at Walmart. I keep close tabs on his ears myself. I also have an Earchek which is awesome!
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