UPDATE:
So here I am looking for more advice. (BTW, so sorry to all of you that had to put your doggies down )
My DH thinks its time to put our dog down. He's fallen a couple of times this week (slips on the hard wood floors), has pooped in the house about 4x this week and he really just seems clueless half the time. We let him out and it almost seems like he's not sure what the heck he's doing out there. We can't just let him out on his own anymore or else he'll wander away. All he does is lay around pretty much all day. He doesn't greet us anymore.
But I'm not sure I'm there yet. He still gets up to eat the baby's food that drops on the ground and he still stares at us when its time to eat. he follows us around probably 25% of the time.
So we both agree that he's going downhill relatively fast. My DH says he's not really enjoying his life now, so why not put him down now and spare him the pain that will inevitably come.
I feel like you can't just put a dog to sleep just because he's clueless and lays around all day - isn't that what getting old is all about? I do agree that he's in pain some of the day, just how much and for how long I do not know.
Thoughts please??? Thx so much for listening/reading.
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Our black lab is 14 years old, yes 14.
He's amazing, best dog ever. Wonderful companion and so patient to our 3 children and a magnificent vacuum for their crumbs as well.
Of most concern is that in the past few weeks he started pooping in the house and it has become more frequent lately. Luckily its just solid poops that are easily picked up but we have 3 children who play on our floors constantly and the youngest of which is crawling. The Vet thinks its dementia - like he's literally forgetting to hold his poop in because the quantity and consistency of it hasn't changed and his spinchter muscle still works properly.
Other concerns:
He's on Rimadyl for arthritis. Has a hard time going up and down steps but manages. However tonight he fell down a couple steps but caught himself.
He's starting to roam when we let him out. Not sure if its because he doesnt hear as well or doesn't care or if its also dementia related. He never really roamed much past our yard or our immediate neighbor's yard, but about 5 days ago he actually wandered about 6 houses down and someone brought him back home.
But here's the thing....he's still so happy, spirits great, goes straight under the high chair during meal times hoping for some scraps, etc. He seems really happy.
I took him to the vet today to see what they said about the pooping issue. I told the vet pretty much what I told you + some more details. I also told him I needed more Rimadyl for his arthritis. He looked in the file and said last time I got a 3 month supply and do I still want that much this time. I asked him if he's inferring something there and then he gave me "the talk".
Basically told me that its not just the quality of the dogs life, but the quality of our life as well and if he's pooping on the same carpet our baby is crawling on thats something to consider. I replied, "How could l ever put a dog to sleep who is happy and has great spirits just because he's pooping in the house every once in awhile?" He said "well, he has arthritis, dementia and now incontinence. How would you describe his quality of life?"
Obviously, I'm very sad. I feel like it would be so much easier if he had cancer and was visibly in pain or stopped eating or couldn't go up stairs, etc. But to me I feel like he's not near there, like his quality of life is pretty decent still. Sure things are harder and he's slower but he doesn't seem like he's ready for his life to end.
So, what do you think? Am i in denial? Is it "time"? If not now, then how will I know?
ETA: Wanted to mention that per the Vet's instructions, we are changing to different (less fiber) dog food, feeding him earlier in the day and walking him at night to ensure he actually poops since a lot of the accidents occur in the middle of the night.