Originally Posted by
daisysmom
I think it depends what the reference really was. I had the impression (and I may have been wrong, it was just my impression) that the pastor knew her personally and was giving a reference on more than just her duties from a job with him, but more on her character, in the kind of person that she is. So I don't think it is unethical for the pastor to consider her current conduct at all.
I disagree. It would be totally unethical because it would be gossip. He has no firsthand knowledge of this...
Honestly, I see no reason to take this any further. She flaked. Move on.
ETA: the gossip thing is an issue because he is a PASTOR.
Megs
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