Well, I thought the article was heartfelt and sincere and it spoke to me. Having been back in the work force now for 4 years after being out 8, I can see that being out much longer could have had tremendous implications. I'm in my mid 40s and went back at 40. Most people my age are all in senior level positions OR are in positions held by people with a lot less education than I have. I started at a level MUCH lower than I left at. If I had stayed out 5 more years there is no way I could have come back into my former profession at all. And then I don't know what I would have done.
I don't necessarily regret being a SAHM, but I can see now that I absolutely did not consider the full long term impact on 1) my career, 2) our lifetime savings, and 3) our ability to help pay for college for our kids. I know that not everyone has as a goal being able to help their kids with college, but I know so many young people in the work force with truly crippling amounts of financial aid debt. In their mid 20s, they are blase about it because it doesn't feel real to them yet. But it has huge implications for their financial futures. I don't want that for my kids.
I chose to SAH for the short term reasons that she described in the article, and for me it was not a thoughtful process. And I did let inertia keep me out of the workforce when it seemed too hard. DH being laid off in 2008 was almost a blessing in disguise, because it forced me to let go of that inertia. But it's only relatively recently that I feel pretty good about it. I was bitter and angry the first couple years I was back at work. It seemed so freaking hard and I felt forced to go back before I was ready. Now I am more in the swing of things and it feels good again.
It was also really good for our marriage. DH feels less stressed since he is no longer the sole breadwinner. It forced him to be more involved with the day to day care and responsibility of the kids and not just a bystander. He was always a happy dad willing to do what was told, but I didn't feel like he was an equally involved parent in terms of the day to day.
But I can also see me reading this article 10 years ago and poo-pooing it and her feelings.
Beth, mom to older DD (8/01) and younger DD (10/06) and always missing Leah (4/22 - 5/1/05)