Originally Posted by
mommylamb
This is just one of those touchy subjects, where when someone makes a different decision than another, or has regrets about making the same decision, people feel like it's somehow a criticism of them. People are very quick to internalize her critique of herself and her life as if she is critiquing them. But, this article wasn't about you, or you, or me. It was about her and her own feelings about her life.
As a working mom, there are times when I feel like I wish I got to spend more time with my kids. Will I regret that later in life? Maybe. But mostly, I think I regret that there aren't 36 hours in the day instead of 24. I know if I were to leave the working world, I would miss many of the things that she clearly misses. Certainly, she could have SAH and done more to stay involved in the working world so that she could have transitioned back, and to me that is what she regrets most, not staying home in and of itself.
I read this article and feel bad for her. But I think it is insensitive to say that she is insincere in what she says. She seems totally sincere in these feelings about herself, and that is sad and unfortunate.
Can't possibly say it any better. She's talking about her own feelings, no one else's, and she's entitled to have them. There's no right or wrong here, and I certainly didn't read it as she didn't love her kids.
Jen, mom to my silly monkey, 10/06