DH you are NOT Doing it ALONE!
So last Wed, the sitter called and told us her son was sick with a wicked stomach virus. DH and I opted to keep the kids home. I came home with the understanding that I was helping DH watch the kids - we would both try to work about 4 hrs, but he had 2 calls he couldn't miss. Well I pretty much worked none of the day and he worked all of the day. So Thur I worked a 15 hr day to make up for Wed.
I'm SUPER busy at work right now. I don't have any personal or sick days left (I've taken all of mine, most of which were taking care of the kids). I've been written up for taking too many unplanned days - it was last year...but I feel like all of my time off is scrutinized. My boss is not very flexible with allowing me to work from home. I have 2 hrs of commute time every day (1 hr each way).
DH works from home, has a flexible work situation, told me last weekend he's mostly caught up and they will be slow the rest of the year, HAS both sick and VACATION days left this year (will be rolling vacation over).
The kids got sick this weekend and I told DH I can NOT stay home at all this week. I have a $1M+ job that has to go out the door, a bid, and another $650K job, in addition to about 4 smaller items.
So he stayed home yesterday - his boss was fine with it. Peanut got sick again this AM...and I stayed to help clean up and get Stachio ready for school. DH was all pissy with me because I can't stay home.
Then when I call to apologize for being cranky and in a rush he complains that I never get home "on time" and he's doing it all alone. Now, I'll admit I often don't get home at 5:30, BUT I also often don't get to work until between 8:15 and 8:30 because I see that he is in the weeds for getting the kids out the door - so I stay and help him. I rarely work more than 8-8.5 hrs/day and in my field it is expected that you work 9-10 hrs a day (which I used to work when we didn't have kids).
I can't believe that he thinks he's "doing it all alone." I make sure that clothes are put out for each of the kids, I prep their lunches, try to pack their bags, make breakfast food on the weekend and often get them started on breakfast. I coordinate/schedule all doc appts, call the nurse line when we need refills, coordinate any schedule changes with the sitter and the parent that picks Stachio up from school and takes him to the sitter.
On top of that he is THE GRINCH. He's never helped put up or decorate the Christmas tree. I do 99% of the shopping 100% of the wrapping, and bake all the Xmas cookies that we give to neighbors/friends as gifts.
Plus I work a full time job where I make more than him. I'm not trying to be b!tchy, but seriously, he's going to be cranky and risk putting my job in jeopardy when he has the time and I've already used all of mine...AND he's going to complain that he does it all alone. Apparently nothing I do is of any help.
Oh, and don't get me started on the 8 additional loads of laundry I did on Sunday because the boys were sick. A pleasure he has NEVER had because I always take care of cleaning up the puked on clothes, bedding and blankets.
Sorry, rant over. I just needed to get that out before I really go postal on him.
ETA: HOLY H3LL!!!! I just called to ask DH if he could throw the pukey clothes that I pretreated and threw in the wash this am before I left in the dryer and was told that he wants to be a SAH dad because he IS BETTER AT MULTI-TASKING than I am!! I seriously don't know whether to laugh, cry or divorce him right now.
I'd stop doing all the things I do and just head out the door on time every day, but I know it is my kids who would suffer, not DH.
Last edited by BabbyO; 12-17-2013 at 02:00 PM.
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DS - Adopted by loving parents 1995
DS1 7/2009 ('Stachio)
DS2 9/2011 (Peanut)