Would this bother you/what would you say?
So, I have a newish friend who I met as her ds is in my ds' class. We have had some get togethers (kids and us). I have had to push out some of her requests, as she does seem to want to get together more frequently than I do, and I thought this was mostly b/c she only WOHM very part time, etc..it is hard for her to understand that during the week is hard for us. Anyway, I am currently looking to move/buy a house in her neighborhood. Since she learned this she has been "looking" for houses for me, and keeps talking about how she hopes it is really close.
Well, I come home yesterday to 3 messages left in the course of 2 hours from her. Her messages say she wants me to call her right away. The house across the street from her is for sale. She has done some research about it already, and wants me to call her right away. I look it up and it does seem like a good fit. I call her back and leave a message, that it looks nice, but I'm not ready to buy yet as current house is not on the market yet and I cannot find a good way to buy first, and btw there is another house available that I do like. She leaves a message back stating that she thinks I should buy this house, it would be so great, she can help me all the time b/c I am a single parent, she heard some rumor about a rumor about the sub-neighborhood the other house is a part of, etc. I am feeling a little suffocated, but still okay at this point.
Then ds tells me that this mom talked to him today at school today about this house, how it is right across the street from her and how great it would be, how we should come look at it and she will make us dinner, etc. Ds is all happy and excited about this. This last part crossed a line for me. I had not told my kids about this house, and don't have these kind of boundaries with other people's children (probably not even mine, meaning that I tend to not share big "maybes" with them.
So, would this bother you? If so, wwyd?
lucky single mom to 20 yr old dd and 17 yr old ds through 2 very different adoption routes