Update in #10--try to stick with this agency or not
Trying to make a long story short, and I have bits and pieces of this on my previous threads, but couldn't find one that summed it all up, I have worked with a local special ed mediation agency for years. I had one worker who was good but left, second worker was awful-he was brand new and it was clear he didn't know what he was doing in the first meeting he attended. I e-mailed the supervisor and nicely explained my case was complicated and I thought I needed someone more seasoned--she sent a nice e-mail back and switched me. That worker was great at first--very thorough and knowledgeable. It then became clear it me that she would avoid anything that looked like confrontation (and I use that word loosely) like the plague--but she did some good things like connecting me to the spec ed administrator where I was able to advocate well myself.
Things continued and the worker seemed to be having a hard time--saying things like my case was the hardest she had worked with (how am I supposed to feel?), stating herself that it is not her job to be confrontational, and then frequently suggesting I switch to another worker. I said no thanks to that, as I felt she knew the case and the issues were with the school district...and the non-confrontational part seemed to be an agency thing not her. The supervisor called me once stating that she heard I was unhappy with my worker (I never said that) but spent most of the call telling me what I can't do...it was very disempowering, but in the end I decided to use it to empower myself (long story).
Dd is going to middle school and I have hand-picked this school for her. I believe the principal and teachers really care and feel hope she will finally get some of her needs met. However, I think this agency's involvement could be helpful as the school district seems scared of them and dd is "unique" and very well-intentioned educators miss some significant struggles she has. In May, my worker seemed to be getting more and more off base, I felt I was triggering her by my persistence and assertiveness regarding dd's rights. I left her a message stating I wanted to take her suggestion that I transfer to the worker she suggested (she suggested one in particular that she called a "bulldog" and another parent -friend of a friend-ended up suggesting the same person after I told her of my situation). She forwarded my request to the supervisor. I did not hear back from the supervisor, so e-mailed a few days ago. She replied that she would like to talk with me by phone about my request. My big question is should I continue with this agency or just go it on my own--there are no other choices other than attorneys and I am not there now. Of course, I will pay careful attention to how the supervisor treats me/what she says, but any advice would be appreciated---or just wishing me luck would be great too!
Sorry this is so long. I hope someone makes it all the way through!!
Last edited by JustMe; 08-15-2014 at 11:52 PM.
lucky single mom to 20 yr old dd and 17 yr old ds through 2 very different adoption routes