Originally Posted by
twowhat?
I would honestly LOVE a less demanding part time job because, right now, the pendulum is too far to the "job" side of my life, especially in combination with DH's very travel-extensive job. However, I'm also at a point where I'm actually moving up in my career - I have a boss who likes me and fully recommends me for promotions, etc. I feel like it would be foolish (NOT saying anyone is foolish to do otherwise, just that *I* would feel foolish) to not try to reap the full benefits of where I am right now. So, the current plan is to work my way up as high as I can and then (maybe?) I will feel like I'm in a position where I can say "hey, I want to work part-time." I don't actually see that going over well in my industry, but it's probably not impossible. And there's always freelancing, and a freelance career would probably be helped by me getting as far up the ladder in the industry as possible. The current plan is to sock away as much as possible for retirement, etc. and then hope in the future that this allows us to cut back on job stuff.
The goal of 2 incomes is really that. Since we are able to, NOW, and both have good jobs and growing career paths, we feel like we need to get ourselves to the best financial point possible so that if something happens down the line - a health issue, or loss of a job, or simply wanting "less" of a job...that we would be able to pull it off.
I really struggle with this too, because THIS is the age that my kids want me involved, would love for me to volunteer at their school, etc. When they're teenagers, they won't be interested in being around me as much. But...if I take away from my career NOW, it'll be that much harder to try to get back in when they're teenagers, when I'm older and less desirable and may demand more money than the younger folks who are early and blazing in their career paths...and by that point we might be feeling financial pressure to get back on the career path because we decided to take a financial hit when our kids were younger. It really feels like a catch-22.
So, I feel your pain, OP!!