I hope you find relief. I just wanted to add some hope by saying that you are only 3 months post birth with a pelvic issue of some sort. I'm not saying that's OK - I think you need to do the things you are doing - but neither do I think it means you have failed to heal and will stay that way forever. For instance, after DD1, I had some pain with my tailbone that took months to go away. After my third child, I had some pelvic looseness, kind of, that went away after months. I also had a very weak pelvic floor that did not go away on its own at all, and I went to a women's health physical therapist specializing 100% in pelvic issues. Although I didn't have pelvic pain, she sees a lot of women for that. SHe did so an internal palitation, which was awkward and different than a gyn exam, but bearable. Anyway, I didn't have tons of improvement going to her - I didn't do a lot of home practicing and her personality was hard for me to work with - but she did help and I would absolutely recommend pelvic physical therapy to other women.
To find a urogynecolgist - and MD trained in both gynecology and female urology- check out http://www.voicesforpfd.org/p/cm/ld/fid=81.
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DD1 15, DD2 12, and DS 9