DS is in K. much to our surprise, DS started balking about attending school as early as the 2nd day. DH and I really were caught off guard, as DS has always enjoyed academics and loves routine and structure.
I got the feeling that something was up when I went to open school night and heard more about the class - it seemed...intense.
and within the first week, DS was bringing home lots of unfinished work sheets - he expressed concerns about having unfinished work, which i repeatedly told him was ok. he's been less verbal about these worries lately
then last week i went in to the classroom for my first parent volunteer spot during literacy center time.
i left there and literally felt like i needed a drink. to say it was intense would be, IMO an understatement
teacher told me i was going to have two groups - 15 minutes per group. each group was expected to:
1. read a little scholastic reader - easy, though only five kids in the whole class can actually read, but she expected me to read with them...fine
2. take a "pack" of papers - three pages, separate the sheets and then cut out six rectangular story pages - two per sheet of paper. order them and then i would staple them
3. then take another sheet that has four pictures - sequence them, numbering them, cut out the four pictures and then glue them in the appropriate order on a yellow strip of paper
4. "ideally" write a sentence under each picture
i'm not sure if others think this sounds reasonable, but my reaction when she first told me the plans was to pick my jaw up off the floor. and then dig in. each group got to work. i had to prod and push to get them through. in my first group one little girl didn't even get to cut out the set of sequencing pics. she was visibly upset by this.
second group two kids, including, DS were able to get through and write ONE sentence sort of. first of all, the space was no way big enough for them to write a sentence under each picture - these kids are five/six. they write big and messy. secondly, the time was TIGHT
DS was basically vibrating through the whole time i was there. surely in part because he was excited that I was there. but definitely in good part because of the timeline. the teacher gave five minute warnings. and counted down as it got close. when she did this, it made the kids (especially DS) even more frenzied seeming. DS is a smart kid. yet he sequenced teh pictures totally wrong at first because he was just rushing. emphasis seemed to be on focusing on a task, not talking, completing the task. i'm not even sure what they were learning.
it just didn't feel good. at all.
i left feeling complicit in adding to the stress these kids seem to under.
other parents have been mentioning to me ways in which their kids seem to be acting out - not to the extent that we're seeing with DS. but still...
so...what to do?
i am feeling very stuck. i really think there is no way i can have DS moved - the school wouldn't do it. and it would seriously rock the boat politically speaking - school and town is small. ultimately, i would fight and push for it, if i thought there would be zero blow back on DS. but i just don't believe that would be the case
but that leaves us facing almost a whole year - it's only Oct - allowing him to stay in a classroom that I didn't even feel good leaving. I truly can understand why he's been feeling so overwhelmed and stressed out.
I could talk to the teacher, but what would i say? apparently, this is how she runs her classroom - i talked with a mom who's son had her two years ago and it was the same then. apparently the other two K classes are definitely more laid back.
ugh.
so:
1. do you think what i described sounds like a lot for 15 minutes in a K classroom?
2. is there anything i could or should do?...would you consider pushing to have him moved? any other suggestions?
thanks