Originally Posted by
doberbrat
I did not read the article as vilifying autism or the victim. I think it was trying to put the picture in perspective. I personally think that there is a difference between this situation and a parent who kills a toddler for soiling their diaper for instance. Kinda like I can understand a dv victim killing their spouse in their sleep. It is NOT ok. But yes, I can have pity over the first vs rage over the latter.
This just proves the point. Comparing Kelli Stapleton to a domestic violence victim IS the problem. It's turning the tables - making Kelli the victim and Issy the perpetrator. It IS vilifying Issy (and autism) and it is justifying the attempted murder. This type of "perspective" puts all people with autism or other disabilities at risk.
If you say "it's not OK, but I understand it" or "it's not OK, but I feel bad for everyone involved" that's justifying it and making excuses for murder. It's not OK - period - end of sentence.
Gena
DS, age 11 and always amazing
“Autistics are the ultimate square pegs, and the problem with pounding a square peg into a round hole is not that the hammering is hard work. It's that you're destroying the peg." - Paul Collins, Not Even Wrong