Originally Posted by
Binkandabee
Thank you for the insight. This is one of those things for me that just doesn't "feel" right to me as a parent. There's nothing really at stake here, it's not highschool, colleg or professional basketbal...it's a tiny church league, so I truly don't understand the pressure to win.
Well, I don't like to think that coaches have to resort to nastiness, but the fact is that sports are about winning. They are about sportsmanship, and teamwork, and a whole host of other things, including learning how to win and lose gracefully, but at the end of the day, sports are a competitive activity. There's no such thing as a sport that's collaborative in nature, other than with your teammates. So to say that there's nothing at stake, therefore there should be no inducement to win, means that you're stripping the experience of a lot of what it is about. You learn from playing with players who are better or worse than you, from playing teams that are better or worse than you, and by getting out there over and over. But if you're not actively trying to score in a game of any sport, with winning as the ultimate goal, I'm not sure where the incentive to ever do better or be better comes from.
Jen, mom to my silly monkey, 10/06